Warning: study these rules one by one. To consider this book as a running narrative is a mistake. To study more than a couple of rules at a time is certainly ill advice.

a) When the true becomes a dream, the dream becomes the truth: dare to dream.
b) When you want much, you will get little: beware of greed.
c) You get what you give: do not ask for more than you can give.
d) Accept the return.
e) Stop thinking, think before.
f) Beware of perversion: do not do what you don't want and be careful experimenting.
g) Its good if you don't want.
h) If you think you don't need: accept things going bad.
i) Try to learn, do not pretend to be someone else.
j) Wild passion as a challenge can be, but must not be, accepted.
k) Avoid overdoing it.
l) For hate there is no place.
m) For pain there is no want.
n) For lust there is no rest.
o) Using force must always be in consent.
p) No erection, no worry.
q) Do not be a fake.
r) Care to be aware: keep vigilance.
s) Beware of the promiscuous; avoid fornication.
t) Better to postpone if trust is not complete.
u) Beware of the inability to stop.
v) Care for love-play after the climax.
w) Do not be compulsive about a climax.
x) Be happy if you don't have to, and not sad if you did.
y) Love to make a baby and being tender.
z) If lust does not become love than break off.

There is also an article to this chapter called: Time for Sex.

 

           a) When the true becomes a dream,
                        the dream becomes the truth: dare to dream.

The first rule of love is that one has to dare to dream. Love is dangerous as it is sympathizing with illusion. The belief in love, is the desire of love, is the fiction of love, is the reality of love that might work out creatively or might fail destructive and disastrous. Everybody agrees: without love the order, God, morality, material life, sex and money have no meaning. All of this without love is meaningless and even a disease or pest to die away from. The source of love is naturally innocence: one must become a child to play one's favorite game of life, not really caring about all the serious of failures, weaknesses and other nonsense. Belief in love, not only one's own love, means one is not too careful or afraid since, once matured far enough, life simply has to be consumed as a good dish. O.k. there is always the risk of a crush or crash confronting one with the serious of life leading into pain and tears. But no one would escape the experience just to be completely sure that nothing would go wrong.

The whole of culture is a dream people dare to share trying to forget all the secret profitmotives and dishonesties. God usually come's last as to the child it is a mature thing and to the mature it is a childish thing. God is simply order to the rationalist and the Lord is just another person handy enough to make one jealous as He seems to have the patent on love and the wondrous. But finding your own way the exemplary is found o.k. and no real hindrance. It is like leaving home: you find your own dream and miracle of love and something else you shouldn't doubt nor believe in that much. It is the wisdom of the common man. Making love is not simply a spontaneous happening between two people sympathizing. Making love is also relating to the world at large as well historically as to the future: love breaks open all limitations of the vision of selfinterest: it is recognized in all and everything. It is the widening of the view that is the excitement of maturing. Although the body gets older, the soul does not, realizing this. Living successfully for the soul the agingproces or a physical handicap becomes irrelevant. What counts is the selfrealization that may have its peaks and valleys whenever in life. Death is nothing but the change of dress: one adopts another body being remembered as one did one's best or being forgotten and/or forgiven as one did wrong (or nothing). Intelligence always knows a thousand explanations to accept things and people who went wrong, just to serve the things and people that go right. The importance of the first rule is to have faith in love: to dare and dream the true. It is all a matter of confidence to pursue one's ideals, getting rid of hindrances, changing illusions into realities as far as the dreaming was righteously loving the truth. Once addicted to love, life never ends which makes eternity more real than the temporary play of forms. 

 

            b) When you want much, you will get little: beware of greed.

The greatest enemy of love is greed. If people making love get attached and want to posses each other, the trouble begins: one is not a sexobject nor a replacement of the parents, nor a doggy to keep on the leash. Still love and loyalty belong to one another. To stay integer is the greatest challenge and to achieve this the philosophy of always more must be abandoned. Be happy with what you've got is the best recipe for love: your employer may hate it, economy may despise it, lust may loathe it, but everyone knows that to be happy is to accept things as they are. Of course it is not realistic to live in a pink world all day. One must accept the challenge etc. But that is work. The foundation of love cannot be missed. If the worker becomes the servant of greed, going for fame, capital, knowledge, power, detachment and beauty only (pict ) , his life becomes a lie. Bewildered by the opulences of the divine the poor soul wants and desires to his hearts content forgetting the souldependent spirit of moderation, modesty, being nice and cozy, always thinking that to keep people is less important than to sacrifice them because of some money (what does the broken vase cost?) or sex (what is the urgency ?). Material life can be described as the belief in sex and money, while the real of man has only one denomination: love. Whether there is sex or not, money or not, if love is not stronger than those two, one has failed in loyalty to the true self and thus become a living lie. The real trouble of greed is its addictive subcultural reality. Once a thief always a thief is not something of condemning society, but something of the person himself. Missing the ability to correct oneself one runs from bad pride to falsehood worse going downhill. As stated earlier: selfcorrection is the essence of biological existence: no action can be coordinated without it. To the greater of life and mankind this is not different. Missing this ability is the cause of all downfall. To stumble and fall is very normal and almost a lust of life. Religions especially concentrate on getting up again not fearing another fall. Politics and science try to forgive by ignoring the weakness posing the goal of action as more important than the way of achieving. It is in fact the same principle of forgiving. Religion forgives in the name of God, the other two in the name of commitment. The end justifying the means may give a quick and profitable effect while the religious treat may never reach very far. To love both ways are o.k., it is not forbidden to live a bit more dangerous. The common ground of the three is to live a conscious confession whatever may go wrong. Thus the real person is always filognostically married to the order confessing: without lies and deceit I am committed to helping and sharing, so help me God almighty. 

 

            c) You get what you give: do not ask for more than you can give.

To have a double standard is the corruption of love. It ruins trust and breeds conflict. The temptation of sex is to think oneself superior with it. One can find the Supreme Personality in it and that is the reason why to many people think there is no difference between sex and love. Sex unregulated though is called lust. It feels exactly like real love but it gives a shadow of abuse, neglect, downfall, loneliness and misery. It can be compared to the way one deals with money. The lust of money is to spend it at will and the love of money is to do it in a regulated manner. Unregulated spending results in a budget deficit giving rise to all kinds of trouble usually leading to borrowing money and further miserable complications. The profiteer becomes guilty, indebted and a slave of labor as he spends more than he can afford. The other way around abstaining from sex expecting holiness and happiness from it can be compared to the likewise superstition that saving money and sitting on a mountain of gold will give all power and happiness in the world. It is the counterpart of abuse and works like a mirror image: it is another kind of neglect, abuse, misery and loneliness. Religion declares riches to be the great obstacle to heaven. Politics hunting accumulations of money declare it a civil sin to withdraw capital from the economy. Money not spent is money not managed and investing it speculating on the mere value of capital goods in stead of generally supporting peoples activities for the good cause is the death of society and justice. Psychologically money is like blood in the body: it needs good circulation to provide all the tissues. The heart, or the bank, must pump it around as much as is needed, depending on the season or arousal level of the body or society. This does not mean though that saving money or abstinence would be a kind of betrayal to the true self in itself. Sexual abstinence drives the energy to the higher centers on proper sublimation while properly saving money gives the power to judge and act on an economic more developed level. Clearly the scientific, psychological aspect of withdrawing energy or money is difficult to separate from the political motive.

The problem, as said with as well positive as negative abuse is the defective or illusioned strategy of power. As well as with lust as with abstinence the devil of the lower drive of simple domination by aggression can linger. With a conscious confession to love; the will to spend wisely and/or be in favor of regulated sexuality, the delusion of power can be overcome that led to the imbalance and injustice of the blind profitmotive of expecting more than one would want to give. 

 

            d) Accept the return.

It is an important law that teaches that to each workload there is a consequence from which it is difficult to escape. Whatever kind of love one chooses to live, there is always a return. On the lower levels of love this effect is more material than on the higher levels. To mindful spiritual activities there might be a shadow of passion being confessed to this or that strategy of action. To love on a social level, in the sphere of domination or in sexuality, love can bring serious consequences which are more difficult to overcome. A sexual partner in love one cannot abandon without seriously damaging the heart. Dominating in e.g. the love for education gives responsibilities that cover one's lifespan and loving people charitable may give complications of attachment that can be determining for the rest of one's life. Being compassionate to the heart though and working higher levels of selfrealization in love carries the nature of detachment because of which the workload accepted will give less serious material consequences. Religiously it is said to be a safeguard, politically it is held that continuing talks are the best prevention against war and psychologically it is said that a good analysis is half the job. All this means that to escape from an unwanted return like war, broken hearts or ruined reputations, a healthy sense of sublimation for the sake of alignment to the order and reality of the soul is the standard recipe. In love accepting the return means one will balance and get rid of perversions born from the uncontrolled of lust. It is a public secret that to give up (unregulated) sexuality is only possible by only giving up the initiative but not forsaking the love for all the sex that comes from itself. With that one must not be astound that the sexual return might take the same character as one's own original drive. In that sex can be like a mirror to learn to know oneself with. Sex because of its alliance with the Supreme Person always can be seen as a kind of lesson to be learned in the school of selfcontrol preaching all the values of eternity. Still the overall lesson of sex stays: it must be love. 

 

            e) Stop thinking, think before.

Love escapes reason, therefore one must descend from the mindful heaven to the mindless earth and not the other way around so it seems.. These are processes called inductive, from the specific of a material position to the general of a common soul and deductive, from the general aligned to the specifically adapted ( pict.). Religiously, politically and scientifically the deductive process is the way of selfrealization. Religion abhors a God or devotee that does not descend from heaven making no sacrifices, politically one abhors dictators inducing to a common concept that works out as fear, a dictature or absolute of imposition, or a loss of individual freedom of expression. Scientifically induction is cherished to find common laws of nature, but the naturalistic drive of science pushing for adaptations, applications and specific outcome and use suggest that science without effect is nothing but fraud. Scientifically it is concluded that induction can only be to the soul and its ethics for itself while the rest is simply bound to its deductive factuality in preferably a value-free reality of choice. The goal of not-thinking in love evidently gives a lot of philosophical and ethical complications to the wisdom that should precede the actions. To mother nature it is all relative and temporary as she would continue her reality whatever our cultural complexes. The conclusion of all lovers is also the same: let nature take its course, all trouble arises from blocking that. Elder children should thus be treated liberally letting them experience for themselves what is good and bad. To keep confidence and the relation is of prime importance. To that the dictum 'time will tell' is the common belief. Filognostically the vague can be overcome by noticing the truth that man first induces to the order of ethical discipline (God) and then comes down to his own personal and unique deductive alignment of duty. 

 

            f) Beware of perversion: do not do what you
                         don't want and be careful experimenting.

Another important reality of the human body is its inhibitory function. As explained earlier the nervous system works on selfcorrection. To achieve proper selfcorrection a great deal of neural functioning is for the sake of inhibition. These inhibitions take a cultural form: they make up the policies, religions and individual sciences of management. To be ambitious in these fields of knowledge one is doomed to get frustrated as the greater part of the cultural reality is only interested in its own style of negation. One may take it or leave it. Adding to it or changing it is not at all welcome and politely wished a good career of frustration to itself. Culture as such is like a garden of flowers and trees where each organism manages its own genetic program to which it always will manage refutation to strange concepts. Natural resistance against change maintaining a species for millions of years only permits very slow evolution. Some species though can adapt in a few generations as for instance bacteria. Because of this medical science is not as sure about the effectivity of penicillin as it would like to be. This points the way back to the reality of natural resistance. In normal health one resists perversions: there is a natural inhibition on all kinds of sexual behavior that is not in line with effective childproduction and maintenance. Because of its cultural connotation though a lot, if not the greater part of sexuality has gotten another meaning. Studying monkeys one can observe that sex is an important mechanism of social control. Since man can function like monkeys this is also often the case for human beings. Only the power of the celibate could prove to be stronger thus achieving religion, politics and science. The transformation of sex is the engine of knowledge and power defying the animal option of domination by means of sex. Still half the world is convinced that only by means of sexual perversion success can be. In fact is sexual perversion exactly the way one submits to a culture and celibacy the way to master it. Thus one can find homosexuality with man successful in following the cultures of woman (showbusiness e.g.). Following the vocations of management a lot of sadomasochistic sex can be assumed as the perfect perversion to destroy one's resistance against impositioncultures. Likewise masturbation would be the ideal perversion for the common man to destroy rebellion and resistance against any failure of the system. That is why parents are advised not to be too restrictive with the adolescent. For soldiers in wartime rape is the best way to destroy the natural inhibition to impose oneself upon others. However cruel and inhuman the effect of the perversion may be, all perversions can be appreciated as a warning against false imposition, faulty systems, and cultural narcism. The more people force each other, deceive each other and judge each other, the greater the chance one will collectively break down decompensating from perversions. There is a direct link between generation-conflicts, political conflicts, paradigmatic opposition, warfare and perversion. To feel safe for the future and to ensure a constructive evolution, reconciliation of generations, political parties and scientific paradigmata is necessary. Not to repress but to integrate and tolerate, demands for a concept of order that supports all and assures clarity and onepointedness (the word many a dictionary will miss). Equivocality breeds duplicity, disappointment, disbelief and ultimately perversion, falldown and destruction. The first thing is to keep intelligence and reason as emotions will always urge for anything. Thus to choose for clarity in love is inevitable. From his clarity one will have a fair chance to choose so that one will not find oneself forced into something or pressed to force oneself out of something. A greater continence of culture will make a humanity less experimenting with a better resolve in its endeavors. 

 

            g) Its good if you don't want.

Especially in love not to act is one of the best things. Not endeavoring for anything one can be open to everything and thus be real love for whatever. This is why criminals go to prison. Whatever endeavor is explicitly forbidden to the prisoner and that is how by inaction they learn to retrieve the love that was lost unrighteously. Although the concept of righteousness is a relative of culture, what is right to the one is unjust to the other, still the value scores high on the list of eternal values. It is the twin-brother of loving the truth which is achieved by a clear (e.g. not intoxicated) vision of reality. Righteousness is the term for proper action and love without it can only be a meditation for the sake of truth. If one loves to do nothing it might be the greatest love for the world that is possible: only the work for a good spirit is left over. But always one must remember that one may and can only successfully meditate after the duties are done, before one simply contemplates on the righteous of action not to land in some or another prison. Meditation without it is nothing but an application for psychiatry: one will go insane of the restless spirit urging according the duties neglected. Thus running from sex one is tormented by the mind of lust, running from pacification one will fight with oneself, and escaping from confrontation one will hear voices telling what one doesn't want to hear. Psychiatry is just another kind of prison for another kind of crime: the neglect of duty or failure of conceiving what that might be.

Still, taking this rule purely sexual, the philosophy is similar to the analogy of righteous action: one can relax and do nothing when one is confident of one's love for the other. Not really sure though one can become a compulsive lover and thus spoil the whole love-affair like a criminal guilty of fraud. A woman will make less trouble about a failure of sexual pleasure if she feels loved by her man in other ways. Also a man will be able to accept a sexually disinterested woman better if she has a fine mind, is a social success or a good housekeeper or mother. An intelligent person recognizes the cultural value of sexual inhibition and resistance against perversion once e.g. the sexlife has become boring of a routine. It might be better, for maintaining a marriage e.g., to buy a good book and start a conversation than to go to a sex-therapist or experiment with perversions oneself. Having good sex one might think: 'there goes the conversation' (and friendship). 

 

            h) If you think you don't need: accept things going bad.

Sex is, once conditioned to it a need. It makes a balance of neurotransmitters in the brain, a balance of energy and foodintake in the body, a balance of associations in society and a certain type of duty to the Godhead of worship, the political leader, scientific paradigm or even a climate. Sometimes the fix of sexual behavior is called life, while others call it a kind of death as nothing seems to happen outside the line of sexual conditioning: one does not really develop other interests or intelligence. Also creativity can be seriously blocked attached to certain perversions finding no resistance or genius.

Thinking one does not need the sex of a certain conditioning of life, one must be prepared for the great adventure that follows. Exactly where all kinds of weakness where cherished and covered by compensations one will lose control. Not rarely this results in destructive actions against the conditionings which on themselves can be righteous and good. One can suddenly be considered having gone crazy. Some people who did not make much of intelligence might be taken to the psychiatrist. Especially the young run a great risk of not being understood in their celibate, but not that wise rebellions. A person with mystical talents for the occult might be labeled schizophrenic missing the right subcultural background of affirmation. Persons with a more quiet lifestyle may be mistaken and also called, labeled and hypnotized as chronically depressed. Sensitized to a (political) climate one can be manic-depressive. It is not at all easy to withstand the opposition especially in the beginning of the selfrealization process. For this purpose all kinds of new-age therapies developed which can be recognized as agents of a transformationculture that are sensitive to the individual workload of people. Individuality and ego are important especially in the beginning where opposition can work out very sudden, brisk and bitter. Good friends can suddenly become bad enemies while an impartial neighbor can be an ideal reference for normality. In the beginning it is usually advised to seek guidance from a bonafide authority: one must not resist this or that school of thought trying to escape from the dead (of another school) of a certain conditioning. According to one's system of belief one can argue about what is bonafide or not. Legally that would be a system in respect with the law and civil rights. Not rarely sects take over too much of the ego declaring people's dependence as inevitable. A bonafide school always realizes its limitations: to each lesson there is a beginning and an end despite the fact that there might be a high career within a certain organization. Ultimately all education must produce a mature and more or less independent person who feels responsible for his own actions. No school as such can be the goal although indispensable as a means of achieving. One can also say that it doesn't really matter what school one follows, the end result would have to be the same sane and happy person. So whether one was in prison, a brothel, university or a monastery, one may all end up living in the same street, joining in the same pub, watching in the same cinema. In conclusion one can say that the importance of the adventure of life is to be an accepted rebel first, to be an emancipating student next and to end up as an experienced rebel in no (personal) need of any other authority happy ever after. Confused in time one can find disease sticking to rebellion, missing the emancipation unable to formulate and get one's obstinacy accepted. To filognosy the timing is of prime importance. 

 

            i) Try to learn, do not pretend to be someone else.

Pretense is an important tactic of the ego that falls in love. One very well knows that falling in love obscures the boundaries of the ego: one gets confused about who one is and what one has to do. People very sure of themselves will find it much more difficult to fall in love than people who are in a real need for emotional support and sexual outlet. Still the ego continues with its strategies of selfesteem. Although perverting, as happens most of the time, one keeps the image of holiness, just to remind oneself of how it actually should be. These people can be teased and mocked by others for being so vulnerable and deceptive. These are just the games of everyday life. They are perfectly normal. The danger is to believe in being someone else. The difference between the real and imagined self does not imply the true self of emancipation automatically. It is not difficult at all to sell one's soul to the devil pretending and make one's life a great lie: the suffering ego hates itself as the role played is strange to the soul. Any actor can confirm the effect of this estrangement to the point of a total identitycrisis. For this purpose man developed the cultures of heroism, politically, religiously and scientifically. Great awards are given to the one's leading in holiness, management and thought. These people must carry the load of identity a society needs. On itself it is no compliment for a society to be in need of this awarding. Actually the identity should be built in the system and not be achieved as an exception. Fame seems to be just another school of learning with teachers and pupils who both must emancipate to equality, fraternity and liberty. One can also say that it is another religion wherein everyone is invited to figure as the Lord Himself, temporarily. The reality is that not a single person can endure fame (play the Supreme Person) for a lifetime without the support of tradition, social background and religion. Therefore fame going against tradition, society or religion can never abide. The same way intimate relations cannot continue on the game of the Supreme Person. The thing lost in the game is the ability to learn: one simply loses the receptivity to the dynamic changing, adaptive and evolving new of everyday's progress of culture. Culture is, although constantly running from fix to fix, a living organism that can change in a day, especially with the new developments of the informationcultures (computers, etc. ). A single event or peculiarity can, important enough, spread over the whole of the earth within a couple of hours. This gives the image of a gigantic brain where all kinds of excitation and inhibition keep the vitality of life running. Although we rather think in personal terms of our unique and intimate, there is the reality of a gigantic anthill where nobody is really important too. We have a system that will correct itself and evolve until it breaks down on some falsehood to learn another lesson. Afraid of that, not doing anything can result in the same kind of personal drama as going for a common thing all together. No pretense of holiness will stop evolution or mankind from learning lessons. 

 

            j) Wild passion as a challenge can be, but must not be, accepted.

Wild passion is the love for chaos and nature. Love can be a storm and lightening affair. Great thunder can follow with heavy clouds and downpour of rain. This can all be private and intimate without anyone else knowing. It is like the informationculture where everyone can dream and make whatever he likes without affecting everyday life directly . No one can stop the creative human being in the virtual of reality. It is also like thinking without speaking anything. One can be a nice and smiling individual having a brainstorm in the head. It is extremely important to have a safeguard of action between thought and writing, between writing and speaking and between imagining and actualizing. A whole storm in the brain of society can end up in the cinema as a complete fantasy. Also subtle thinking that never finds any press, discourse or action can change the way of mankind in a minute. Nobody really knows how much of thought man is sharing at the moment. In the spirit one can imagine to share with personalities of history, 'residing in the eternal', but how many actors cannot play that role just to obscure the complete contemporal of any thought? Maybe also dreams are much more collective than anyone may have expected. It is difficult to prove the synchroniciy of the collective conscious as any proof would imply a strategy of control unacceptable to the dynamic concept of freedom. Writing this text e.g. half of mankind could be involved at the moment of writing. But rereading it in winter e.g. may be only one percent of the population might recognize themselves in it, let alone the impossibility to relive the same moment collectively. From this it would be almost futile to read anything, but directly speaking instead of that would possibly be a greater disaster. Fighting the love for chaos with writings might be the least effective means of management, still being so slow it can be the wisest and most considerate means of countering the wild passions of mankind. Therefore the rule: passions can be, but must not be, accepted. They are a challenge to the spirit of loyalty to the order. To lose one's mind in the passions of a loveaffair can never be an obligation to the individual or a culture to the collective as is sometimes seen during warfare. Although unreason seems to manage the world by means of passions, still the reasons and reasonings of wisdom, vitally thought to the moment or fixed for the stability of selfawareness, manage he essence of soul nobody can do without. 

 

            k) Avoid overdoing it.

Compulsive sex is the killer of love. Obsessive-compulsive behavior belongs to the psychiatric vocabulary. It is an effort to reduce the complexity of life without proper alignment. In need of structure people cling to stereotypes of behavior: perform rituals, say certain things a certain way, become superstitious, develop magical thinking and impressionmanagement to keep up the appearance despite the lack of content. Within the framework of a religion or other tradition this is called sane and cultural. But an individual developing it idiosyncratically runs into autistic selfstimulation and management of fear for influences from the outside world (phobias). The basic problem is trust, which normally psychotherapeutically must be restored once the person is losing his adaptations to the tradition of a political system, religion or science. Trust is broken on the confrontation with personal weaknesses of others while the social system can't compensate for the weaknesses and deviance of individual members. This way love becomes a strange conspiracy of people or an individual psychopathology that is allowed to pester the fellow man. This way woman can lose trust in the sexual approaches of men finding love more a compulsive neurosis of a sexual kind than the expected mutual feeling and heartfulness for healthy procreation. Characteristic of the compulsion is to push irrespective of the feeling. For instance eating on regular times, which on itself is good, can run into obesity eating more than is needed with e.g. a more quiet lifestyle getting older. In this case the feeling of satiation is repressed in favor of an old no longer valid habit. From this the simple rule is derived to stay alert to overdoing it. For instance after a war is over one must give up the heavy investment in the military industry that on itself is only good in times of war. Not overdoing it means one stays alert to the actual need avoiding the repression of the signs that command another approach. The body itself will warn. These warnings are relatively subtle, like just a soar feeling after sex or a vagina a bit to dry to penetrate. Forcing love will lead to illness: all kinds of infection, loss of resistance, cramps of the body and mental states beyond the sane can be the

consequence. Suddenly one may find oneself in a divorce, simply because of ignoring the subtle signs about which it was difficult to talk. She would just say 'You don't love me anymore' and such, as love cannot be ordained. The other cannot command love because that is manipulation. Bringing a bunch of flowers won't make you a better lover either. As stated earlier: if things are going wrong withdraw and recapitulate. Better to make no love at all than to spoil the love and trust there was. Again the whole of sanity depends on the ability to sublimate the sexual energies and emancipate to a higher expression of love in selfrealization. 

 

            l) For hate there is no place.

Especially after the first of love is over and the sexual drive is brought back to its normal proportions, love can change into its opposite. Aggression is a consequence of frustration. Thinking one is freed from frustrations enjoying a loveaffair one will find the same duties and limitations back afterwards. The image of sexual heaven is borrowed from the Supreme Personality nobody can be. Sex is also of God, but God is not always sex. God can very well be without any sexual behavior. Soberly God is simply order and regular sex can very well be replaced by regular fitnesstraining (also good for the belly). As long as one is in order, it doesn't really matter that much how one respects that order, whether one is a criminal in order or a righteous person: physical health is synonymous with being in order (maybe the righteous person will live a bit longer in freedom). Hatred is the opposite of love. It follows love like a shadow and is left no place to be anywhere else. Loving this one tends to hate that. Loving to keep someone, one tends to hate in possessiveness. Loving to be independent one tends to hate for claims of dependency etc. Also groups of people together can love for instance the color of their skin simply hating anything else. Love tends to become false hating an opposite of desire, being attached to the manifestation of the object of love. Therefore one should in fact only love the soul as the soul cannot be seen materially. One can only remember in the mind how one is, was or should be. God might be the Lord but the only sure visible thing about Him is His being the Time by which He changes form. One might ascribe a certain interpretation or order of time to the real of Time (also called the inscrutable duration) but that will always go at the cost of another scale of measurement. Not to run into hatred the question is what form would best represent the interest of the soul. Attachment to one's own body will give a fear of death and disease while others cannot be held either in their form but for a period of education e.g.. To time as a durable form of God there is the problem of representation: which representation gives the best idea of unicity of the moment? In the back of this book a design is given showing a clock that will only repeat its indication after one year instead of after one day as with the usual clock, turning the scale away from the noonindication of the sun according to the date. It is a bit (366 times) better in differentiating the moment * but also more difficult to read so that it must first be learned to appreciate it as a proper reference or common ground for any other (in this design digitally indicated) respect of time. Practically one may be happy if mankind retrieves the old differentiation of local timing there was in the beginning of the rule of clockwork. Anyhow, once liberated to an alternative timeconcept it cannot really be undone. Realistically one can only add another timeconcept and not expect the old chaos of standardtiming to disappear. Thus one arrives at the scientific conclusion of computerized time which is a free choice of timemanagement against a valid (so called astrarium- )reference of optimal representation. Deriving the order of the soul from this form of God, having excluded no other form one may expect to stay free from hatred. This way a loveaffair can be a success remembering that with the stable fixation on the (form, knowledge and order of the) soul the sexual bond can be appreciated, provided an absense of repression of alternatives. 

 

            m) For pain there is no want.

Love hurts: the open heart of sexual permissiveness turns into a heavy stone behind which the Lord lies tormented in pain. As seen, compulsive clinging to sex will only force down another painful reality. Still for pain nobody has wanting except for some perversions of sex who refuse to be really serious about it also. How to live in love for ever is a nice question while the answer is always the same: only if you realize how painful the shadow can be, one is motivated for the eternal values of love. Against the sadomasochistic perversion there is the penance of voluntary suffering abstinence escaping from the more painful sudden clashes by accident. One step in the direction of the soul in voluntary suffering can ward of the greatest disasters and pain. Still there will always be a bit pain with the dentist, at birth or at accepting the departure of someone loved etc. Normally one has a choice between falling in madness or living in pain, making the sane balanced person a bit crazy about something always and a bit in pain about normal things as well. Also being liberated to an alternative of timemanagement still one cannot escape the painful notion of having to accept others living against it. Pain as a conflict of integration reminds one of the fact that it is difficult to choose in life and that one is not the only master in the universe. Many people in the modern world complain about pains who do not seem to have a clear cause. It is also in between the interest of matter and spirit that the body can give an alarm of pain. Nor escaping in the spirit, nor escaping in the body will be effective. Only proper balancing of interests can give an acceptable level of discomfort and stress sufficient to maintain the adaptations. Some stress must be, some sign or signal must alarm, some tolerance one cannot do without. A good rule off thumb is again the timefactor: if after a week or so the pain does not go away one might have caught a chronic ailment that is in need of treatment. Regular physical exercise (not only the sexual one) will also help keeping the stress of normal integration acceptable and healthy. Certain types of foodintake are more stressresistant than others. Eating too much of this or that, salt for instance, stress can become lethal while the same stress would be simply stimulating for a person eating more wise. Important to remember is that also (sexual) love itself can bring a lot of stress. Real love often is in favor of confrontations. 

 

            n) For lust there is no rest.

Another problem is the addiction to stress. Not accepting regulation lust can work up a compensating life of stress and a state of consciousness one can suddenly drop out of as if one would wake up out of a dream. A lot of (drug-induced self-) hypnosis is based on this principle. Taking over the control of the individual there is hardly a conscious soul left to control the actions of the body or to keep track with the things going on at the level of control. Resistance against hypnosis as such can be considered a sign of mental health and integration. The person susceptible to lose control in another state of consciousness is not mentally inferior but can be recognized as a compensator or less stable person. There will be more attachment to action being restless to a lustmotive and thus such a person will run a greater risk of losing himself. Immature adolescents and children might have this as a normal consequence of adaptation in a family, but maturing at an older age they will find themselves guilty of maintaining an unregulated state of being to their souls. The purpose and meaning of emancipation is found in fighting the restless of material motives: the integrated person radiates calmness and control. Comedians knowing this willfully act as if restless and unstable making a show of the idiosyncrasies of an unregulated life.

To have a good sexlife with this rule depends on the talent to regulate something supposed to be spontaneous. It is a bit of a paradox to have a good sexlife. For the Supreme Person it might not be difficult to have spontaneous sex being perfectly in control of the woman He impregnates. But no normal man would maintain that he can control woman. The woman by nature has her preferences when she ovulates for instance and forcing against it will not enhance her appreciation. Maybe in the beginning she might be all-tolerant to bind a partner by instinct, but sooner or later she will settle things to her wanting too. Prolonged use of preservatives for instance can result in her adulterating, just following her instinct to get impregnated by a man more willing to receive her child. Statistics prove that the biology is a strong factor easily surpassing the culture of marital loyalty. Whatever one might think about sexual liberation cultivating this or that, ultimately sex is simply there for the sake of begetting offspring and failing in this all relations will be put to a test of intelligence and culture to survive the biological frustration. One may think the whole of culture is just another mating-ritual of just another animal in paradise. To find peace regulating it though, this notion is just a paradigmatic relative.

 

           o) Using force must always be in consent.

The government using force by means of the military or the police can do so only on parliamentary consent. Likewise any person individually can only use force on consent. E.g. parents raising children may use force to a certain extend for the sake of obedience: they can agree to give warnings and put sanctions on unwanted behavior. The force is contained in the contract for coordinated action, not in the spontaneous will to exert power. The difference between lust and love with this also depends on whether there is clarity about some regulation or not. Arbitrary decisionmaking is the way to lose control and authority. This is why illicit sex and raising children by one parent are difficult subjects. Two people in love can force their will upon the community that might not agree with the choice. This is still an agreement between two people who religiously might only find the Lord Himself at their side 'feeling from the heart'. Likewise a single mother and her child also can have an agreement that can work out fine for themselves. The problem is that without social control there is no safeguard against excess. The stronger of the two can become a tyrant taking the own weakness on the other. Even groupwise, within a political party or religious community things can go bad having the authorities corrupted for their own weaknesses. Again the criterion of time comes around whispering the dictates of tradition: 'this is a better line of management since it stood the test of time'. Following this order will ultimately be enforced by the authority of traditions that time and again must defend themselves against the arbitrariness of modernity.

Sexually it can happen that a certain type of force is involved. Two people can corrupt and lose control in this seeing their relationship ruined. Sex can be forced by means of extra stimulation in the form of films, books and other means. Compulsive sex though is another definition of neurotic sex: sex alienated from love and the soul. Sexual fixations are the result of psychic conflicts that follow the obstruction of the selfrealization process. Selfrealization fails if the concept of emancipation is not properly understood. Emancipation means liberation, but not knowing what to get free from one easily corrupts on a lustmotive. Emancipation is not simply rolereversal of men and woman: each may prove to be as able as the other: one can still be just as dependent standing in the shoes of the other person. The idea of independence is central to the reality of emancipation. The question is: how to keep relations becoming independent. The answer lies in the way one aligns. Everybody has to align to the soul to keep intelligence and happiness despite the sacrifices. But differing in the politics of alignment emancipation often means to lose the one's who where allied in lust. Sex-friends are no real friends, just like friends in drugs or crime. Only if two sex-addicts or drugaddicts or crime-addicts together decide to cure and align to the soul with preferably the same method, the relationship will be maintained. To heal the world from its corruption is thus a very precarious affair. Usually one keeps the balance of corruption and redemption as it is no courage to progress for the better of all. The danger of breeding opposition outweighs the suffering of maintaining the unfulfilled. Still wars are the result of a lack of proper progress. Maintaining misery means one maintains a certain type of unrighteousness that drives the community mad resulting in a blind concept of enmity. Not doing justice to mother nature e.g. we can find humanity in a state of war for the sake of elementary needs as water or energy. Not being able to escape from the dictate of emancipation the only good answer is to align that way that the original lust is recognized and turned into love for the same object. If e.g. one was lusting about sex, the inevitable consequence is that one has to accept a workload in being love for the sexual. If e.g. humanity has been lusting in a arbitrary and perverted timeconcept, the only way out is to do justice to Time by accepting the workload that dictates a more evolved concept. This way the diversion to other subjects is prevented and enmity precluded. Marching with a swastika e.g. will not solve the problems of perverted sex and mismanagement of time. 

 

            p) No erection, no worry.

Having sex, being in love a man might be afraid of not having an erection. Likewise the woman may be afraid of not being moist enough to receive the man. Although the problem can be solved technically, naturally it is, remembering the previous rule, better not to use force not to run into perversions and fixations. It is tempting to treat the frustration as a disease and ask a doctor for help. This way half of the money doctors make is simply wasted. With a little bit of patience the natural urge for procreation will be difficult to deny. One may be happy if the sex is not that urgent so that the higher emotions of love have a better chance. If sex fails being together, then why not sing a song together or do otherwise something cultural. That is humanity: the practice of good will in the face of frustrated animal urges. So many people never get decently married or get children because of some technical or cultural obstruction. This is inherent in cultural reality; it is normal. Many people very early in their lives become corrupted in sexmatters and find themselves the way blocked towards a pure sexlife for the sake of procreation. Cultivated sex does not need any procreation, it needs preservation. Choosing for the culture of sex it is quite natural not to have natural sex at all nor have an effective marriage. If one doesn't care for the cultural priority then there is no challenge for the natural bond of sex for procreation. In the animal kingdom it can be observed that a lot of fighting is needed before a male gets the right to procreate and form a sometimes enduring bond. For human beings it is in fact not much different: only after having defeated culturally all kinds of demons of cultural obstruction, the man is appreciated by the woman as a success in adaptation. This is how natural selection works: only the successful males are allowed procreation. Although not rarely the more simple cultures come first as they need less fighting to attain, the more evolved cultures will prove more powerful. One man or woman is enough to change the whole world once God is with the endeavor of service. It even might take many generations of evolution within a certain familyculture before there is any success for the sake of the greater society. Understood in a larger context there is never real impotency or inability to perform. Any obstruction can be understood as a preparation or gathering of strength and ability. Even if one has become sterile or infertile the emancipationprocess (pict.)will give outcome by transference to the next generation a non-sexual way. Cultural products are children of the spirit that are just as or even more exciting and difficult to beget and also want to live happy lives and be of service to the world and the true self. Loving each other takes another dimension having overcome the compulsion to perform. Many a sexual (and spiritual) therapist will confirm that the most important method of healing the sexual and healing by the sexual is done by retrieving the original affection, care and freedom in the physical (or cultural) approach of love. 

 

            q) Do not be a fake.

The same line of argument as above is in the call for the genuine and honest. For the sake of sex, money, status (pict.), beauty, knowledge etc. one can desire a certain partner or subdivision of culture just to find out that after a while there turns out to be no real love. One may just learn some kind of lesson making money or pursuing a sexual object or cultural thing. It is simply difficult to know oneself. Many a thing needs to be tested and tried. Many places must sometimes be visited and many books may be explored. East, west, home best. Always everybody will return home whatever that might be to the wandering soul. Even aliens flying in a flying saucer can only be happy if they can go home. If their vehicle is just another type of coffin they were buried in, they will only be

astonished about the way one dies in that culture. The question how one lives that culture is not answered until one returns home to where the heart is.

The problem is the repression of the authentic drive of the person. Getting experienced, dying for the love one lives one has to suffer and not rarely this results in a negative attitude towards the beloved. If all married couples would be as polite to each other as one would be to one's own neighbors or even housepets, the world would be a different place. Once shared a certain weakness it turns out to make strong bonds and once cured from the weakness the authentic love can be denied a long time even stronger than one would being neutral. Also from one's refutations one can learn who one is. A special aversion can be nothing but traumatized love. Psychotherapists know this and use it in the deconditioningtherapies to overcome phobias. Especially the thing one fears contains he secret of the selfrealization sought. Very shy people afraid of all violence might turn out to be the greatest soldiers there are. Only after retrieving the balance of the emotions (reintegration) the selfrealizationprocess will continue and lead to new adventures of relating and cultivating.

Not to fake means to be honest keeping up appearances. Of course there must be a show of good will although things are not flourishing always. Even for hundreds of years a whole nation or culture can suffer terrible conflicts not able to solve certain problems of selfrealization until the necessary requirements are met. The higher one rises the deeper one falls. Sometimes leaders fall down or are murdered by their own people resulting in an age-long absence of any decent leadership. Not just individuals do penance but also nations or a complete worldpopulation. Only after the damage is done one will regret most of the time. Not to fake love is the same as not to betray the reality of penance. Desire is the enemy prompting not to give up while honesty is the friend that tells to accept and wait for a better chance of fulfillment. What must not be given up is the search and service for the true self and what must be rejected is the lying for the sake of the false. Therefore, to stick with the drive for order e.g., it must be for the sake of finding trust with one another in the first place not lying that e.g. a better clock would make a better society although that might be the consequence. Especially sexually trust is the one thing that must be. With that the emotionality of a lot of frustration and trouble can be tolerated. Mental hospitals are full with people who simply lost their confidence. 

 

            r) Care to be aware: keep vigilance.

Trusting is a duty of man and betrayal of trust is the disease mankind suffers. Opportunity makes the thief. Precautions are taken, but afraid of crime one becomes just as locked up with one's possessions as the criminal in prison. The problem is in the vigilance. It must not be fear but a conscious effort to meet a high standard of culture. A fallen culture cherishing weaknesses believing that that would keep the peace has lost track with the selfrealizationprocess (pict.). Step by step desires and lust must find regulation and detachment so that enlightenment can precede liberation in service to the order. Once realized that proper regulation gives happiness, that happiness can be more wisely as before be invested in service. Although any system of service will sooner or later be exhausted thus defining obstinacy and rebellion as a sign of good health, still there is no escape from holding on to the progress of any system. Dropping out simply means turning back to school to learn what was missed. Only then one is aware enough to keep the necessary vigilance. Sometimes all kinds of seemingly ridiculous cultural rituals are absolutely needed to keep balance and prevent the worst. It is like having a fusebox in an electrical circuit: at first hand it doesn't seem to make sense until an overload proves it right. Watching television e.g. can be a pleasant thing while nobody understands why one should abstain regularly for a day in another rhythm of time than its standardhypnosis. Still the thing can work counterproductive too in times of war e.g. amplifying the madness of a small conflict into a worldwar collectively or marital divorce individually.. The onset of radio in the forties, television in the sixties and the computer in the nineties correlated with explicit international conflicts of war. Although the causal connection cannot be tested or proven common sense will tell to be vigilant with these kind of effects. Certainly it is individually wise to be in control of the use of the media or whatever agent it might concern. Also lovers know this, testing one another in simply refusing sex for a change. To matter one must prove to be the master while to the soul always the reality of service must be proven. Forgetting this a youngster trusting in the divinity of sexual love resenting the alignmentstrategies of the parents might run into the wrong hands getting abused and possibly even incurably diseased. From that the rule of not having intercourse before marriage or not having sex with strangers in general can be understood as the seemingly unnecessary fuse one must not blow. 

 

            s) Beware of the promiscuous; avoid fornication.

To understand the issue of the diversity of sexuality one can distinguish different types of sexual people (pict.):

a) The holy

b) The free

c) The loyal

d) The deviant

e) The passive

Type a is the person living without sexual activity. It requires the highest standard of discipline and holiness as all natural urges for procreation must be sublimated to a level of servitude where personal continence is not in conflict with tradition at the one hand and progress at the other. They can be sexual for the purpose of offspring to its holy sacrament, promply denying it once the wish for children is fulfilled. The second type, type b, is the sexual person believing in sexual freedom. In principle all kinds of sex are o.k. to him as long as it is not a compulsion. This kind of person leads a dangerous life as the hygienic department is always the problem of free and spontaneous sex. Above that will those people find more difficulties of keeping relations as the sexual urge runs right trough them. Type c is the sex of people interested in procreation and marital perseverance. With those people sex quickly becomes a boring routine and less important once the infatuation is over. These people often are religious tending to the holy. Type d are the sex-addicts who have perverted interests in all kind of recreational sex. Sex as a sport or hobby or way of relating specially has become a compulsion with them. These people love to masturbate, experiment and/or deviate within the confines of the bedroom-experience. Often hey have a philosophy of liberation by means of sex as they transform all kinds of negative emotions in special types of sex. The greatest risk of these people is when the kicks are over. Essentially with them there has been no development on higher levels of sublimation because of which they can suffer all kinds of trouble having no experience in transcendence. The one's lacking in morality and ego-strength can have serious psychiatric trouble or trouble with the law especially once the sexual outlet is blocked. The type e people are the one's who do not practice sex voluntarily but who predominantly fantasize and dream about it passively cherishing desires and conflicts of dependency. They often lack in personal discipline and sexual initiative and suffer pollutions and breakdowns being defeated by some kind of ignorance.

To sex there is a standard concept of evolution in emancipation. The transformation of lower sex into higher experiences of transcendence is known to happen from three platforms: the animal bond, the heroic bond and the divine bond. The first bond is sticking with one partner. Transforming from this level from type c and d sex to type a sex one meditates on the sexual experience until the cultural drive has become stronger. Because of its possessive character this platform is known as animalistic. The heroic bond is the bond typical for type b people who gradually are liberated by giving up the desire for a partner and sexual gratification. These are the hero's as they have the mission of independence on their shoulders. Not attached to a single partner slowly the interest of the soul takes over the interest of sex. As the hero's are social by nature they can even be stronger than type a people who often simply withdraw from the 'bad and sinful' world in a negative mind about all sex (and procreation). The divine platform is the transcendence typical for type a people. Not practicing sex one still has to be love to be able to live. From this platform the workaholic or hermit becomes a compassionate servant of some kind of idealistic non-profit organization predominantly interested in peace and harmony.

From these classifications of sex it becomes clear that the perverted and promiscuous will suffer the greatest trouble in transcendence and emancipation. They do not really belong to any platform of transformation as they are simply addicted to sex. The best chance for those who manage to give up their compulsions on the heroic platform is to stay social, while on the animalistic platform clinging to a partner that can keep track with the difficulties of

transformation will give the best chances for liberation. Failing in this the perverted run into all kinds of disease and mishap as nature (God) can also formulate a solution for stopping the compulsion.. 

 

            t) Better to postpone if trust is not complete.

This rule is most difficult. Typical for the one in love is the inability to say no against the partner. A partner with strong sexual urges easily tempts a willing person into sexuality while there actually was not enough acquaintance with each other. Not rarely sex represses the reality of the darker sides of the person that may only pop up after the infatuation is over. It can take years of marriage before one realizes one married the wrong person. Therefore it is wise to make sure one can trust the person before further advances are accepted. One can stay on the kissing-level a long time until for better and for worse one knows for sure that the other can accept and does understand the strengths and weaknesses of the partner. The cherished type of sublimation one must be able to share. A good culture of sublimation can be strong enough to bind the most diverse type of people together. Religion often forbids divorce as that would be an insult to its capacity to integrate. Still having the same religion or other strategy of transcendence is no guarantee for a happy marriage. Still one must care for selecting the right partner with e.g. equal intelligence and statusorientation. Statistics prove: the more divergent the people the less probable the endurance.

With postponing though one must also be careful. People in love need to confirm their love. The flame must be kept alive. If one hesitates too long giving each other the first kiss, it might not happen ever as it cannot be distinguished from normal relating. The genes are also talking and they simply want sexual gratification. To deny sex with the good will of purity is no success for the body that also leads in motivation and ambition. It is even so that denial of sexuality will lead to mental disease as even the religious know the sexual as a positive sacrament. One can only abstain from sex cherishing a philosophy of positive sexual relating: one doesn't necessarily have to practice sex oneself to approve of it. Therefore it is difficult to say no against sex once the other person is intimately known.

One can best postpone sexual intercourse by planning it for after marriage as the classical rule demands or otherwise after official engagement or after the introduction to the parents or if that is too difficult only after the best friends know about it. Although love and confidence can be that strong that two people pursue their relationship irrespective of what the rest of the world would say or think about it, for the sake of wisdom it is good to have as a rule some kind of safeguard in control of the strongest emotion in man. 

 

            u) Beware of the inability to stop.

It is a general rule in life that things can only be right if they can be refuted. Without the ability to say no there is no question of a free choice. Freedom of choice is something to work, fight and struggle for. Freedom is not selfevident as education by parents certainly is. The whole of society is playing the paternal role trying to take over the responsibility of the individual. Peace by social security is founded on this paternal role of the government. By no means just the liberal motive of getting rid of paternal concern can manage. To get rid of control does not make people independent or free. Only self wanted voluntary emancipation will bring liberation. Also independence must not be a compulsion. It must be allowed to enjoy and appreciate the care of others. This also is essential for a healthy society that knows to give and take. This gives the picture of a balance: on the one side it must be possible to depend while at the other side one must be able to choose for freedom. Societies are healthy that way and also sexual relations. Sex as a compulsion thus in fact destroys relations while at the other hand forced independence will be either capable of holding people together. Therefore limits need to be set. It is like eating from the cookiejar or making money: only at teatime a cookie is allowed and only on paying taxes capital may accumulate. Likewise for sexual abstinence there is the obligation of sacrifice: the energy must find a way out on another level in a socially acceptable form. Without it one will not be able to control the mind that is activated by the natural urge for selfrealization. Lots of mental disease can be retraced to a frustration of sacrifice: the most renown dictator e.g. was nothing but a frustrated painter without success. With this the concept of what is called a success is essential. The definition of success cannot lie in the appreciation by others as that is still the dependent mode. The reality of success lies in the continence of goodness that is achieved by perseverance of sacrifice without the expectancy of return. This way even someone who died can be a persistent success. On the other hand keeping sexual activity one may set a limit at the level of adaptation within a subliminal culture: as long as there is enough energy and mind left for the cultural, limited sex can be the philosophy of 'loading and discharging the batteries'. 

 

            v) Care for love-play after the climax.

Just as important not to be egoistically after sexual gratification it is also important to share the success of achieving on a higher level of discharge. Many people simply use others at the 'way to the top'. But the other is not simply a staircase or a sex-object to be discarded after success. It is because of the support of the government, the spouse, the teachers, the religion, the culture of whatever that one could achieve. Gratitude is a very important value in the appreciation of as well the sexual orgasm as a societal success. In fact only people who do not deny the one's that helped them that far can be of prolonged success. As such often successful people are married or get married as soon as they achieve a certain level: they cared for the ones that supported them. Sexual orgasm and societal success go together also although it is somewhat of a paradox to be a cultural success and a intimate success at the same time. Usually success of sexual people is made by celibates working behind the screen. In this the Supreme Personality, spiritual teacher or leader is usually thanked as no other person would be able to appreciate or deserve the gratitude. To afterplay there is thus a lot more than simply be sweet with the love you had. In fact the whole discharge of sex can evoke a lot of emotions as all energy is drained from other levels of living. This can be a test for the integrity of not only the individual but also the culture attached at a certain level of management. Often collectively parallels can be found that work likewise: the sexual revolution of the sixties e.g. coincided with war and revolution not knowing what caused what. Too great a cultural pressure can urge for sex while a sexually heavy urge can can set off a terrible conflict. Since nobody can really control this for the safety of all one may only pray and love with this rule stressing the importance of the value of gratitude. Whether heavily stressing a type of culture or sex, important is not to forget whom or what we should be grateful to. E.g. loving and respecting mother nature by means of an improved concept of time in gratitude for all that she gave us may simply be the only survivalstrategy for mankind left. Modern time may have been like a sexual orgasm but how the post-modern afterplay would cherish a restoration of respect for mother nature remains to be seen. 

 

            w) Do not be compulsive about a climax.

In fact the climax is the end of the love-making. A whole of sexual culture is about postponement of the climax. The idea is that love is spoilt when the sex is for an accomplishment. Just getting rid is considered animalistic and loveless. Having a sexual bond together also going for a climax outside of it is considered loveless. When the relationship is giving trouble also the sexual bond can be felt as disturbing. Then going for a climax outside of it is a sign of the wish of independence or the unwillingness or disbelief in affirming the sexual bond getting even psychologically. Maturity is founded on the two legs of instruction and settlement. Both must warrant the independence. The original father and mother in the flesh that educated and affirmed the immature state are gradually replaced by father time who settles everything by means of agreements and scheduling and mother literature who takes the form of books of instruction always available for support and help. The problem of greater society is to have time corrupted for pragmatic reasons and to have books corrupted for economic reasons. Evidently time should be loyal to nature and books should be free available without any possessiveness. But the interlocal interest of time seems to be more important while libraries must always confess that books are lend out in the possession of others. Having the problem of independence boiled down to time-dislocation and knowledge-possessiveness existentially experienced as 'I don't really know how late it is up here' and ' I cannot possess all the books I actually care about' the solution seems technically clear: an improved clock that is in respect with any choice of time and an internetcomputer that can down-load any chunk of knowledge from anywhere in the world (and then reading that with e.g. a floppy-pager, without the necessity to own a computer). Taking it purely sexual though things are much less clear: one is in conflict about dependence and independence, sex and love, orgasm or no orgasm without really understanding how to be mature in all this. As such sex itself can be the disturbance realizing that getting rid of sex is completely different from the neurotic realization of having an orgasmic relief.

Going for sex one must simply be love for sex out of which the orgasm is the natural relief. Going for relief itself one shouldn't go for an orgasm at all but learn about the troubles of maturity in management and knowledge. One can be perfect love for knowledge and a good organization of work without having any sex at all. From (and not necessarily by) the animalistic drive man can find relief in the cultural reality of living meaningful. Mankind freed from compulsive sexuality will not only find liberation culturally but also sexually. 

 

            x) Be happy if you don't have to, and not sad if you did.

One can be happy having had sex but also sad. Some sex is a liberation of the animal drive finding oneself a successful procreator and lover of the opposite sex. Some sex is sadly a sign of dependency realizing one is caught in a web of cultural subjugation with which one may never attain the true of the self. Both types have a certain disdain of culture in common giving proof of the subliminal character of culture. The objection against this realization lies in the difference between transcendence (pict.) and sublimation. Discharge on a higher level of selfrealization can still be very materially motivated: all divinity and mindfulness, all politics and heart can be for the sake of a material outcome thus never attaining the transcendental reality of liberation in service to the interest of the soul. As stated above do possessiveness and bad timing form the more subtle lusts and betrayal of the higher intelligence. Having realized this giving up the acquisition and keeping tendencies in favor of possessiveness and the loyalty to the hypnosis of commercial standardtime in favor of bad timing, the transcendental comes in reach. All one needs is the order of a natural outlook and the objectivity of an open window to see reality as it is transcending to the happiness of the soul that did his best and is always willing to sacrifice further. Then one can be happy if you don't have to perform sexually and not sad if you did. Sublimation on itself is no safeguard against the neurotic compulsion and the grieved sadness that can come having sex loveless for a material outcome. 

 

            y) Love to make a baby and being tender.

Another great danger of love is the attachment to sex. Attached to sexuality one is not really interested in the natural outcome of having a baby. There can even be strong resentment and lies against having a baby with the excuse of not being ready or not being able to find a world happy enough for the tender baby. Some can be simply that jealous about having offspring, knowing that after the baby has come lots of love will be diverted to the little one, that marital divorces can follow the pregnancy. Some very beautiful woman simply don't want offspring because of the same jealousy saying their careers are more important than having offspring. But still being sexual their love seems nothing but abuse of the male support. Sexual attachment is a byproduct of material bewilderment expressing itself as jealousy. The cure of course lies in exercising the opposite: one should endeavor, explore and discover in the spiritual /religious psychological realm and seek expression in compassionate selfrealization. In stead of going for the sex and the money one should go for the selfrealization and the love. In this opposition money seems to be a perversion of selfrealization; an enemy that in fact blocks or hinders and slows down cultural openness and progress while sex for itself is recognized as the killer of compassion and love. Of course reality is not as black and white as it can be written as selfrealization and money as well as sex and love can very well go together. The end justifying the means though cannot justify their corruption. The importance of this rule is about having babies the tender and loving way. The idea is that babies born as a byproduct of material ambition will find less caring and loving parents and will tend to grow up being maybe worse than that. Only by striving for loving sex instead of sexual love this can be. Once the priority of love is clear not only the person but also the whole world can be liberated from the corruption that ruins the happy. 

 

            z) If lust does not become love than break off.

The final rule differing from all the others is the rule accounting for the fact that people live spontaneous and at first hand don't want to care about rules that much at all. Thus one can have a lusty life slowly realizing, getting older and wiser, that something must be done in respect of a more mature and selfresponsible style of life. As such it can be considered normal to start of as a spontaneous lusty animal going for the obvious of material attraction. The more successful the lust would be the greater the troubles of sublimation and transcendence then would be afterwards. Thus seen material ambition and spiritual ambition can be each others mirror image. Some cautious individuals might not fall for the outer attraction at all or find much work later on getting out of it. That can have the advantage of quicker progress in the social field having on itself less trouble of finding the material motive in cooperation. Where the explicit convert can find himself at the other extreme having difficulties finding the balance, the cautious individual might be more successful but less experienced and knowledgeable about the reality of material life and transcendence. The cautious seem perfectly fit for representing traditions keeping the perfect middle while the extreme people seem perfect for purposes of reform being the daredevils of selfrealization.

Whatever the style or character of the selfrealizationprocess decisive though is whether lust is overcome or not. It is not an imaginary problem to find many converted still cherishing the same old lust or to find many lovers totally unable to mature and become more independent together. Easily one can change dress and still be the same liar. Also it is easy to find yourself the same lover getting older still being the same fool. Love like God, can take many forms and is characterized by its vitality of change. Therefore finding the same old lust simply transformed only in age or culture one may safely say goodbye to that state of being and decide for a better concept of planning and understanding. To live in a castle can be very alluring but to find the glorious mansion in the clouds can bring a great falldown, not only for a single pair of lovers but also for mankind as a whole. 

 

*The differentiation that is naturally there is falsified by the present clock by means of the pretense that with a calendar-indication there would be a sufficient differentiation of time: there is still no differentiation then to the position within the timezone of one's geographical postion e.g. while the indication of the clock does not really show the natural situation. Nor is there any question of an integrated concept of time with a seperate calendarindication. Ultimately it is not the goal to represent one moment of time with different indications. Thus even this design is just a way to achieve a more comprehensive timeconcept without extra indications. Standardtime seen this way is just a pretense or keeping up of appearances.