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Warning:
study these rules one by one. To consider this book as
a running narrative is a mistake. To study more than a
couple of rules at a time is certainly ill
advice.
a)
Marry for
procreation.
b)
Adopt children or medical help if
childless.
c)
Avoid adultery.
d)
Avoid masturbation and sexual
petting.
e)
Care for a common culture of
sublimation.
f)
Work on agreement.
g)
Care for relatives, tradition and
ancestors.
h)
Plan sexuality to avoid mutual
abuse.
i)
Avoid blaming the
other.
j)
Be clear and converse about relevant social
topics.
k)
Care for emancipation of you and your
partner.
l)
Hold together in
education.
m)
Consult impartial outsiders in case of conflicts of
power.
n)
In case of divorce separate the
possessions.
o)
Avoid violence with and against
children.
p)
Treat children as equal as
possible.
q)
Have days of festivity and
leisure.
r)
Go out with the
family.
s)
Play and appreciate the media
together.
t)
Beware of making
dependence.
u)
Keep former relations and be
charitable.
v)
Have some private space for
each.
w)
Share your secrets.
x)
Take care of surprises and
alternatives.
y)
Keep the house tidy.
z)
Bear poverty, adversity, disease and
loss.
a) Marry for procreation.
 The
commitment a (wo)man makes to the world compares to
the commitment to a women (or man). The world is there
made from matter
and maintained by material activity. A woman is also a
material manifestation of mankind. The demand of the
relation is love: the man must be love to the world as
well as to the woman. Childless one can practice the
art of making and maintaining love for a long
time,
but unfulfilled the sexual drive will drop away and
seek other ways of manifestation. Fulfillment of
relating to the world and the other (of also the same)
sex is defined by material outcome: there must be a
product; a child or cultural artifact. As said before
the highest product is peace with the more mindful
work being closer to the soul
than the material gratification of the lower senses
only. Anyhow to any marriage there must be a form of
material outcome. Even the spiritual marriage of a nun
to her convent and Lordship is in need of the
expression of her material service to the order: holy
articles e.g. are also matters of fact. A preacher to
a religion must talk people together as a material
proof of success. Thus a normal material marriage
between a man and a wife has the simplest basic duty
of procreation. The nature of marriage will change
dropping the simple sexual motive for another outcome.
The more cultural the outcome, the less probable
(necessary) the marriage will be. Solution to this
problem is to be productive for the soul
making conscience and selfremembrance. To each making
though there is the shadow of passion preaching the
necessity out of dissatisfaction with its absence.
This shadow can take the form of anger, lust, jealousy
and fear (pict.&pict.),
defining the pain of evolution. The closer to the
interest of the soul
the greater the chance of purification from the shadow
and of harmonizing with the existent as an expansion.
Forgetting the interest of the soul
will spoil the chance for purification and make the
contribution a repression instead of an expansion.
Unpurified, repressing one goes downhill ending in
madness, disease, war and
degradation. 
b) Adopt children or medical help if
childless.
Not
rarely marriage goes without the blessing of
offspring. This way people can be very unhappy and
unfulfilled. Marriage should not be the selfservice of
one's own lovemaking these people realize. Love is in
need of an outcome is the general rule. The energy
invested must give some return. One can feel terribly
exhausted losing all tolerance for further engagement
finding love unfulfilled. Marriage is thus seen a
process of dating, engaging, marrying, and begetting
children; clearly a material definition. Following
this definition not having offspring would necessitate
the adoption of children or even a medical
intervention to promote against the will of nature.
Especially the latter option is heavily doubted. One
does not recognize the physician as a representative
of God
forgiving people their sins by mending the broken
chains of natural consequence. Ovaries can be blocked,
seed can have lost vital capacity and stress might
cause rejection of the unborn. Recognizing people as
servants and representatives of divine providence can
be under the condition of consent to an order that
encompasses the holy, the traditions and the natural
logic. A physician in respect of the eternal values,
not being estranged from traditions or the logic of
nature, can be considered a representative and thus be
trusted as a high priest of healthcare. To
God
and soul
everything may be tolerated, while forgetting that
interest the same thing would be despicable. It is not
what one does, but the way it is done, that is
decisive. The social control of the order of the basic
values is as said the guarantee for proper functioning
and thus only by overcoming the fears of formal
identification and liberation
the integration of science, religion, politics and
natural demands can be.
To
a less material definition of marriage the same holds
for begetting other material byproducts than children.
For writing books, plays, painting paintings, building
houses etc. one does not need to be sexual. On the
contrary postponement of the act will show the
subliminal culture of creation as a game of sexual
attraction without engaging in the sexual act (thus
liberating sex in fact from its cultural isolation).
The same way as a rooster can have feathers to enhance
his sexual outlook, culture can have religion to
protect the sexual interest. By the culture oF
celibacy the animal interest of material marriage can
be covered. Religiously it is called a sacrament,
scientifically professional commitment and politically
party-membership. All together culture produces a lot
more than just according to the natural instinct for
offspring. Also failing to contribute culturally
because one's receptivity is blocked, the vitality of
continence doesn't function or cultural influences
hinder the inspiration, one can resort to the help of
'doctors' or adoption of the cultural products of
someone else. This way the West got all kinds of
foreign teachers, while foreign countries got all
kinds of western help and equipment. Although equally
doubted as well, in short by integration of the
worldculture everybody can progress despite the
fruitless marriages of a selfcontaining culture. What
holds for physicians helping fruitless couples
physically can also be true for teachers and
authorities helping other cultures to progress: if
there is a common concept of order to the divine of
the eternal values all the strange and doubted can be
tolerated.
c) Avoid adultery.
What
is adultery? It is not simply the marital infidelity.
It is much more. It is like heresy, a revolt or
revolution against the constraint of culture. People
take it as a disaster of marriage; a personal thing.
In fact it is a cultural problem. Everybody desires
after the fullness of God
in fact in need of emancipation
from a low level to a higher level of culture
(pict.).
Not acquainted with the content of emancipation
(pict.)
people simply displace the problem resorting to
adultery and the like being deluded by the material
affair. The fullness of God
pertains to beauty, fame, power,renunciation,
knowledge and riches (pict.).
The church and the nobles used to give evidence of
this. But not grasping the logic of these effects the
whole concept of emancipation
and surrender to the order of liberation
is obscured. One does not attain by attachment
to any of the effects of the Order of Time.
What is decisive is to evolve, progress, expand and
contain with time
learning that it is quality and not quantity that
counts. It is not what one does or has, but , again,
how it is done and owned. From that the logic of
fullness will be evident.
The
name of content is found in the conscientious
remembering self that evolves through different layers
from the physical to the powerful, from powerful to
the social, from the social to the heartful, from the
heartful to the confessionate, from the confessionate
to the insightful and from the insightful to the true
of the divine self (pict.).
On the course of this personal and collective
evolution one realizes the logic of the fullness
showing itself as the life of knowledge in
renunciation attaining riches by sharing, beauty by
harmonizing, fame by celebration and power by consent
(pict.).
Not knowing because of attachment,
stealing riches, desiring beauty in disharmony, losing
fame by celebrating egoistically, and corrupting power
by breeding opposition one defines the true nature of
adultery. This is how not only the wife, but the whole
world is betrayed by unfaithfulness to the
soul's
interest of emancipation.
Remembering the importance of emancipation
to the interest of the soul
from the beginning of marriage will keep from adultery
or render it unimportant if it happened. To the basic
values adultery is simply the
unclean.
d) Avoid masturbation and sexual
petting.
As
with adultery the other most popular alternatives of
sexuality are part of the same escapism. It does not
really matter if you divert yourself in adultery,
petting one another or masturbating the frustrations
away. It is all part of the same problem of personal
and collective evolution. In a system that is confused
and out of balance and exhausted in its possibilities,
there is nothing left but progress by the exploration
of alternatives enriching life as a whole eventually
transforming our ways and opening the gates of
evolution to a higher level of civilization. It is
good to be heartful from the schools of religion,
science and politics. Certainly a lot has been
attained to the level of the heart. But what is the
collective confession about? One tries to escape in
perversions fearing the unknown and the consequence of
confessing to the truth's already realized for so
long. Rather have that as a painting on the wall or a
book of criticism in in the bookcase or have it neatly
organized in a computer !?. Delving in illusory
concepts of enlightenment one clings to the freedom of
a private unlimited of the informal suffering all
kinds of madness, identityconfusion, uncertainty,
delusion, anxiety and other mental derangement. It is
no wonder that many marriages fail because of missing
the essential of personal and cultural progress. The
heartful of material culture, supported by politics,
science, religion and holidays for 'the enlightenment
of nature' does not free one from the neurotic and
schizoid of modernity. Heartful of matter
one runs dry impersonal, politics suffer their
endlessquarrels of opposition, religion loses in
fixations, science on the profitmotive and the love
for nature fails on a lack of cultural positivity.
Just to make money and enjoy, to work and pray is not
enough. It needs further integration (pict.).
Next to days of working, the saturday for the
homereligion and the sunday
for penance from the fruitive motive, one also needs
days to be merely social and outgoing no longer
keeping distance with the media, days of study and
contemplation without fruitive activity or
socializing, and days of celebrating natural order as
the prime of God
(table).
To keep mankind as a whole and the individual on
himself from the escapism of the sexual alternative
one simply has to formulate and investigate an
acceptable alternative that is no repression but a
suitable candidate to expand to. Twentiest century
culture is like a plant in a pot too small. It takes
some care to have the sexual roots not growing into
themselves like with masturbation and sexual petting.
An exception to this rule is all sexual approach
within the context of foreplay: as long as the goal is
procreation it is not unholy to stimulate each other
sexually.
e) Care for a common culture of
sublimation.
If
the sexual habits must change as the waste of that
energy is not productive and runs dry on being no
solution at all, there must be transformation of that
energy. Taking that energy on the higher level of
exerting power, being social, going for the heart,
confessing to a higher order, gaining insight and
finding the fullness of the divine in everyday life, a
common culture of sublimation is of the highest
importance (pict.).
No marriage between individuals or between individuals
and the world will last without a conscious control of
culture by settlement to the demands of power,
society, the heart, confession, insight and divine
integration. Power needs fixation by global
legislation, society by divisions of statusorientation
(pict.),
the heart by formalization, confession by initiation,
insight by scripture, and divine integration by
settlement of continence in everyday life
(pict.).
To
the individual that wants to subscribe to this, as
worldorder can only evolve from him, this practically
means that a common second worldlanguage must be
learned by all which will be English, the language of
the new informationculture. Only with a common command
of language a common law can be attained. Secondly the
individual may identify with the system of
statusorientation (also see pict.)
as formulated in previous chapters to settle the
identity
as a candidate without any further initiation,
confession or control. Thirdly one may sublimate to
the heart by formally recognizing one another as a
candidate to get obliged to the order as one likes.
This formal engaging can fourth be confirmed by
initiation, that is to say public confession to the
basic values on all three levels of commitment
(aspirant, recognized, advanced)(pict.):
'loyal and honest I shall care and share to the honor
of my commitment'. Fifth the individual may delve in
meditation
on the scripture, and contribute himself in writing
and/or teaching thereto while finally sixth, he or she
may fully surrender to the service of the
soul
by answering to the demands of the order and its
association. This final surrender would logically mean
that such a person may expect all care from others as
one cares oneself without any further exchange of
money or goods. In the ideal situation with many
members of full surrender the order would fully care
for all the needs of the individual, like a family
that cares for its children.
Next
to all this formality on a realistic level of not
having attained to anything of these ideals of
personal liberation
any marriage may still be endeavoring to contain on
the sublimation of being engaged in a division of
labor, formally confirmed by legal marriage, outspoken
in moral confession, considerate of spiritual
knowledge and positive to any congregation of the
divine. To have a common culture is the best guarantee
of continence.
f) Work on agreement.
Of
course tripping the ego
can be but will not suffice. As an experiment anyone
can try anything, just like an artist. To have a
marriage or commitment to the world at large really
working though, agreements are needed. People in love
may be private in their interest, but sooner or later
the involvement with the greater society will prove
itself in need of confirmation. As no one is an
island, neither a couple or other 'folie a deux' can
continue without further adaptation and integration.
Social control might be a great hindrance as all kinds
of deafness, cowardice and prejudice may judge and
block the private experiment of evolution. Evolution
means either pain or madness, death or disease and to
walk the tight rope in between is not a simply social
or anti-social affair. In fact to the God
of Time
constantly amending is required with a firm hold on
the science of the soul
being the best guarantee of continuation.
Going
without any confirmation can be for a while, but
totally out of the dialectic of the communal one will
certainly burn up to ones own initiative. Therefore it
is of great importance that as well as the individual
as society at large stays alert to the expressions of
selfrealisation that might seem rebellious, heretic or
immoral and deviant. To judge one another is easy, but
to understand is a bit more difficult. A society or
individual not receptive to the reality
of progress in general, or the signs of individual
growth, cannot correct itself, nor control itself or
confirm and celebrate itself. Within each marriage and
between society and the married this alert to the
reality
of change is equally important. With no positive
development at least the signs of an obstructed
development should be timely noticed to prevent
madness and disease.
g) Care for relatives, tradition and
ancestors.
From
the fundamental value of caring as a cornerstone of
the house of culture can be said that traditionally in
respect of the ancestral, relatives should care for
the human interest without any expectation of return.
Contrary to care there is selfhood that lacks in
compassion and excels in competition. Competition
might be a nice concept to play a game with, but to
the interest of compassion it might be deleterious.
Compassion is not a simple sentiment of sympathizing
with the weak and needy. It is a big difference
whether one looks down upon or is really selfless
willing to live with. It makes a lot of difference to
feel and live with human beings only or with the
greater of nature in totality. What is tradition, whom
do we call brothers and sisters and whom do we owe it
to?. A narrow mind
sees the wife and children only, like any selfish
animal seeing the rest as competition or fodder. A
broad mind
might be more intelligent
recognizing the interest of strangers and other
species as one's own and the interest in other woman
as a challenge for emancipation
to realize equal human beings. To the tradition of
mankind there is a lot of confusion about what our
roots really are: are we meateaters competing with the
greatest predators eventually devouring each other too
or are we naturally primates predominantly vegetarian
of interest living in peace and harmony with nature as
a kind of potter-monkey? Especially because of
populationgrowth the answer to the question becomes
pressing. Following the lead of compassion as the key
for the concept of proper care having the concept of
competition and its selfhood as an opposite of
predatory interest, one could logically hold on to the
vegetarian way of life as an attainable idea of the
future. The vegetarian is certainly the tradition of
the spiritual discipline that founded our present
culture making the sympathy with the neanderthaler
love for hunting and gathering less dominant.
Not
just considering the future of mankind as a whole but
also the interest of maintaining within a marriage,
the tuning down of passion by the lead of compassion
seems to be an essential born from the eternal values
of the soul
(pict.).
Practically this means that to love relatives, to be
in touch with a broader concept of the ancestral and
to have some respect of cultural tradition simply
following the vegetarian motive replacing the
meatproduct with bean- and dairy-products is
indicated. Less the passion and more the compassion,
there will be less adulterous deviation, more interest
in human emancipation,
less estrangement from relatives and the interest of
harmony with the greater of nature and more continence
in respect of the ancestral foundation of the
spiritual part of culture.
h) Plan sexuality to avoid mutual
abuse.
Sexuality
is a very important issue to maintaining a marriage or
keep the family of mankind together. Sex is the
greatest love man knows. Of God
it is the most popular characteristic wanted. The
divine of sex is everybodies ideal and dream. Sober
reality
though dictates it a bit different: culture frustrates
the primal drive of sex to keep us really brothers and
sisters and once engaged in sex very quickly lovers
notice the dangers of abusing one another selfishly.
Love and lust are easily confused and not knowing the
difference can give rise to a lot of relational
troubles. Not rarely all kinds of tension are
artificially created because of justifying the sexual
release. Sex can become compulsive and neurotic losing
all selfconfidence and personal certainty and respect.
It can become a bad habit or an addiction. What is
worse than spoiling the most beautiful of physical
love there is?
In
sum the sexual is always in need of regulation. We
can't just do it in the road or with any stranger
anywhere as abuse is bound to give trouble. A license
is customary to guarantee the approval of the
community: for sex one legally and religiously
marries. Without it also settlements are needed:
contracts for living together or keeping the bond as
it is on mutual agreement. In fact lust is turned into
love by all this kind of regulation. Whether the
sexual motive dominates or the cultural motive,
whether one marries before having sex or after, nobody
likes to be abused and everybody thus is in need of a
settlement of sex. Often people resort to masturbation
in the face of all cultural frustration because of
planning the sexual thing. But also to oneself the
same truth is valid. Is there a real difference in
relating to oneself sexually or involving someone else
in the habit? What really counts is the ability to
cope with the dynamic and complexity of culture.
Losing the ability one may pervert or perverting
sexually one may lose the ability. It can be a vicious
circle. Good sex and good culture is what the real
marriage with her and/or the world is all
about.
i ) Avoid blaming the
other.
The
most famous of the human fall-down is the theory of
attribution. Who is to blame for all the trouble: is
it the meateater, the fundamentalist, the damn
scientist, the wicket politician, the pervert, the
wild artist. Who is the devil in person anyway? Aren't
there enough criminals already? All this accusing and
persecuting ofscapegoats in the name of some
attribution-theory is a shadow of the need of a
personal God.
Thepersonal God
is formed from the wicked of man that is in need of
chastisement. The classical hero,knight, prophet,
supreme personality, saint etc., descends from heaven
with the judgment of Godmoralizing
for better behavior in the sense of depending more on
the soul
than on material gratification. It is because mankind
as a whole deviates from the 'straight path' and not
because some single person would be bad. Just as it is
unwise not to respect the missionary of
God,
it is equally unwise to consider any person in
particular responsible for all the evil in the world.
It is from this logic quite clear that missing the
missionary gives the shadow of accusing scapegoats.
And we can't always expect the God
from heaven to take all the blame to protect us from
that shadow. Studying the teachings of all these
hero's of God
selflessness is the motive of their preaching and
acting. They do not particularly ask men to kiss their
feet, although they allow, they always ask to take
mature selfresponsibility of having a good conscience
to the interest of the soul.
Considering this the general rule of not blaming
anyone and especially not the Godhead in person is
evident: always blame yourselves and not the other. I
am the one who failed to cope with the complexity of
her and the world. No blaming of others will be
anything but cowardice, prejudice and deafness:
monkeybusiness. Incarcerating criminals accused of the
(d)evil can only have this as a goal: each should
search within himself fighting the evil. It is just
that some people are more imprisoned than others as
liberation
in surrender to the service of the soul
is possible. This is also true for the confinement
that makes up the marital
agreement.
j) Be clear and converse about relevant
social topics.
Clarity
is love. Keeping things unclear in the secrecy of
hidden cultures fond about their precious continence,
a lot of love is lacking in the world. Secrecy,
initiation and betrayal are dominant themes of
mankind. The more doubtful the culture is, the more
hidden the reality.
Openness is generally considered a sign of strength:
tell the whole world the Lord took the burden of His
own shadow (pict.),
tell the whole world about the invention that is in
the interest of all. No buying and selling is the
ideal. No pricetag on the interest of the truth. This
is the ideal of an open culture where anyone may know
anything from public libraries and
information-networks. The meaning of secrecy is found
in the silence that covers the weaknesses. The
weakness may not be betrayed: it is private, a
professional secret or a professional aberration to
which the previous rule of selfresponsible
non-accusation applies. It is even a psychological
law: a person can only continue on a positive
selfimage, despite of the weaknesses, eventually
defending the most improbable of consonance. The
lawyer will defend it in court, the psychologist will
defend it in the counselingroom, the spouse will
defend it in marriage and the priest will absolve it
on confession. Clarity is love and to be clear about
one's loyalty is of the greatest importance. Therefore
to give evidence of loyalty to the order of the
soul
is of prime importance making liberation
in service the prime motive of action. This clarity
not only safeguards the holiness of matrimony but also
the redemption of mankind. In this sense the tabloid
taste for slander is nothing but betrayal while the
confessions of the one's reborn to the order make the
reality
of belief in the true real.
To
converse means to be opposite openly and implies to do
that by means of the word. It is, properly, the same
service in clarity that fears no confrontation or
opportunity to surrender to the interest of the
soul.
This is the way of becoming a happy person. Nothing as
bad as a heart full of murder and a mouth unable to
speak. A good marriage is characterized by a healthy
sense of communal interest to which there is open
communication. Therapy, politics and religion can be
the topics avoided with friends but to members of a
family political and religious conversing or talking
to a scientific paradigm is the way of confirming the
bond.
k) Care for emancipation
of you and your partner.
Within
a marriage it is quite clear what care for
emancipation
means: the woman has the same right as the man.
Despite of the biological difference both may work,
study, vote and stay home with the children. Parting
ways of adopting another religion, political party or
scientific paradigm not necessarily lead to
separation, although it often does. Emancipation
always brings the risk of estrangement. Sobering up
from the regressions of lust one may discover not to
have or be a suitable partner at all. One may decide
to go for the soul
and tolerate the difference of the estrangement or
even like it, or one may decide to go for the culture,
remarry and not tolerate the estrangement. In
emancipation
culture and the personal soul
can grow opposite. Not rarely people continue on their
regressions fearing the burden of emancipation
eventually fostering diseases blocking their energies.
Attachment
is the root of all suffering as such. The greatest
chance of success is to emancipate to cultures that
hold on to traditional ways of keeping the
soul.
The more experimental, sectarian and speculative the
sublimationculture, the greater the chance of divorce
and estrangement.
The
ideal is cultural progress covering the whole of
society. For that a simple concept of soul
is needed with a concrete generally accepted form of
God.
In sum the answer seems to be that attaining to a
conscientious (soulful) remembrance of the order of
time
(God)
is a proper basis for human progress. Practically man
and woman should agree about who does what at which
time.
To the greater concept of the emancipation
of a worldculture, mankind relating to nature also
should agree about who does what at which
time
(pict.).
It is not simply having the same rights and then
competing until death follows. Emancipation
with soul
means conscientious reckoning with each other and thus
the afore mentioned.
l) Hold together in
education.
In
raising children it is important to have consistency.
In emancipated, mixed marriages this can be a
problem.
Emancipation
also means that one has to accept the dynamic of
personal evolution. Different stages of development
follow one another (pict.)
and children do not always match with this. Children
may get very confused, disappointed and neglected. A
writer also may write a book and adopt to that a
complete of culture, just to drop it later on to write
another book. Still those 'byproducts', the children,
the books are in need of proper respect. Therefore a
common cultural basis is needed to which couples
privately and greater cultures collectively agree in
order to take care of the proper educational and
filognostical
(loving the books) continuity. As mentioned above an
agreement of conscientious action to the order of
Time
is needed. Such an order has been discussed in the
previous chapters. To the cultural importance of a
denominator of formal identity
also a structure of statusorientation
(pict.&pict)
and commitment (pict.)
has been discussed. On the basis of an alternative
order of time
(tables)
and a settlement of identity
(pict.)for
emancipation
and social control one can find solidity for the
purpose of filognosy
and education. Properly founded in the charitable,
that is to say in voluntary service, such a respect of
order can replace the parents that drop away because
of disturbances of personal evolution. All kinds of
things can go wrong and a community must learn to take
collectively responsibility for such calamities. The
dictate of personal freedom is a heavy one, and not
wanting to spoil the children, lose the love of
knowledge or the honor of soulful emancipation,
there must be provided for a proper continuity of
culture for everyone. Only on the basis of equal
chances for all real worldpeace can be. Forming elites
may happen, but cannot be the dominant theme. Openness
to each, also of the past and the future, defines the
health of progress and the sanity of any system of
management.
m) Consult impartial outsiders in case of
conflicts of power.
Losing
touch with the interest of the soul,
deluded by the attraction of material nature, couples
can stray from the path of emancipation
(pict.
& pict.)
and explore the less righteous realms of human
activity. From that one certainly learns about the
limits and borderlines not to transgress. Another
unwanted effect of such an experience is the conflict
of power. Experimenting one easily loses the authority
and certainty of the culture and order of the
soul.
Trying to have the power oneself in a deluded and
perverted concept of authority and maturity one may
end up in a relational hell. The dear lover becomes a
dictator and the dear life becomes a lie. In order to
find a safe way home, back to the good and real of
Time,
one may temporarily accept to regress to a situation
of apprenticeship in order to regain the discipline
lost. For that help is often needed. Just by books
alone it is difficult to progress at all. Some things
are purely social and lots of knowledge and rulegiving
is unwritten. In order to learn something there is
also the source of outside authorities and other
seekers of the truth of personal emancipation
(pict.).
To that there are priests, politicians and scientific
therapists teaching and healing according their
beliefsystems, policies, and paradigms. Each system
may claim to be exclusive and the one and only
solution, but political reality
learns us that evidently the coexistence of all is the
need. Whatever system of management adopted, each will
hold on to its own agreements. One may participate as
far as one can but to change it will be difficult or
impossible. There is a law of nature that commands the
coexistence and continence of the diversity of all
beings and only onlosing function and adaptation
species die out. Culture is not different from this:
complexity may increase but to repress the existent is
a war. For instance to time
we had the old dynamic definition valid for thousands
of years to the reality
of the heavenly bodies. Later was added the
electromagnetic definition of time
defining the stability of the measured unit by means
of the element Cesium. That atomic concept of
time
though did not really undo the authority of the
sundial defining the dynamic of time.
Still the exact length of atomically counted timeunits
as hours and days, must be corrected to the evident
instability of the mean of its natural length (earth
progressively spins slower to the sun). The law of
Time
is that it has to change; no measure will hold however
much we are fixed to a standard unit of measurement.
The difference between what one measures and with what
one measures dictates a dual concept of validity when
it comes to the settlement of a comprehensive order of
time.
From this example it may be evident why the outside
authority is important to overcome the powerconflicts
and psychology within a certain system of management
and fixation (pict.).
Life ruins all systems and forces them to
(re-)adaptation to the outside reality
for their survival.
n) In case of divorce separate the
possessions.
Sooner
or later the mature person must follow his own course.
If it happens to be so that emancipation
leads to separation, discovering one does not match
beyond the lustprinciple, one simply has to forgive
and forget. Detachment is always the problem of
progress. Holding on to the material past the need for
progress becomes a mental disease. Therefore it is
important to separate mine and thine. Being attached
to the tokens of one's own culture one has to learn to
forget and forgive about the follies and stuff of the
other person. The infatuation of love leads to
attachment
to all kinds of behavior and stuff one cannot forget
so easily: it makes two fools that should not accuse
each other of one's own madness. Separation of the
possessions draws a line between two attached people
who cannot agree about what to detach from for what
purpose. Of course it would be nice if the partners
would agree about a common culture of sublimation and
detachment. But often this is not the case.
Being
in love with the world, getting disappointed about it
and settling for another course of and stopping with
it is as difficult as giving up an addiction. Not only
one is conditioned to the behavioral pattern that no
longer satisfies, also the world is conditioned to
expect nothing but that. Conversed to another style of
life suddenly the 'whole world' drops away,
friendships do not work, employment has to change,
another language is spoken. In the beginning
emancipation
can be very bitter discovering only after some
time
how sweet it can be. On the contrary in the beginning
lust and attachment
can be very sweet, just to discover after some
time
that when the excitement is over one is caught in a
bitter battle against slavery and boredom. Because of
the former one should not separate and because of the
latter one should not hate each other. Ultimately
selfrealisation is the result of what one has realized
oneself and true love recognizes it in the
other.
To
the reality
of time
mankind has the same problem. Fallen in love with the
modern we ended up in attachment
to timezones that are not really needed and a calendar
stemming from before the year zero that is nothing but
a confusion of different timedivisions and policies.
Separating mine and thine the ones attached to the
past should be able to continue while the people who
follow the simpler scheme of true world
time
(GMT corrected for the time-equation
eventually adapted to one's place) and a
24-division-calender (see tables)
should be happy with their alternative and ideal of
harmonizing with nature and reason. To regard the
complexity of peaceful coexistence as a whole
the
design for a new type of
clock can as
said before be respected.
o) Avoid violence with and against
children.
Not
recognizing one's own ignorance children are often
hated by the parents who, struggling with the mature
command of selfresponsibility discover aggravation by
the dependence and dictates of childhood. In stead of
becoming free selfrealizing emancipating individuals
parents have to suffer the slavery of the workload of
their former lusts. The lustprinciple is not overcome
in a day: it brings a whole world of consequence that
is naturally settled by having offspring. The most
simple things like eating, behaving, toilettraining
etc. have to be learned over and over until a healthy
sense of reality
dominates the innocence of life (pict,).
Failing to cope with this workload estranged from the
paternal authoritative attitude people go to hell
needing reeducation in mental institutes, monasteries,
counselingrooms and other trainings. Lots of human
life is all about this business of taking the workload
of former lust. It is quite normal and nothing to be
ashamed about. Mankind always had pilgrimages,
religions and other occupations to cope with it and in
the future it will continue to exist in the same or
another form. Also the order proposed in this writing
in the form of another clock and discipline of
statusorientation forms a workload that is an
intermediate between the old lust and the new outcome
of simply another calender and the same old clock
managed to the sun as it should. It simply might take
a thousand years to have the whole world culturally
unified on an improved timepolicy. Because of
everybody having his own way a great complexity is to
be worked at while ultimately it is nothing but the
evolutionary pain of progressing one step in the
management of time
and identity.
With this burden in the personal sphere of raising
children or caring for the precious artifacts of one's
own culture, violence must be avoided. Violence is the
result of frustration being confronted with more
trouble and work than would be wanted, needed or
wished for. To curb the underlying desire that steals
the sanity of mind
is as said done by regulation in the political,
religious, scientific and natural, personal
sphere.
p) Treat children as equal as
possible.
The
fall of intelligence
is shown in the relationship with the ignorant and
innocent. The more debilitated the culture the more
severe the relations between parent and children,
teachers and pupils, priests and believers,
governments and citizens. With no sinners no religions
would be needed, with no profiteers no security-order
would exist, with no fallen souls no teachers would be
beyond the parental and with no lust no humbling would
have to take place. Parents humble children seeing
them as the little devils of their own lust. Priests
have to preach at people having to accept the common
sins of the flesh, governments have to pay endlessly
for social security not able to demand anything
material back because of the profitmotive and teachers
have to repeat the lessons over and over since people
lose their intelligence
constantly in the fall of the soul.
Once settled though for the realityprinciple
(pict.),
priests, teachers, politicians and parents have to
learn to treat the fellow men not as a victim but as
an equal partner. The other is not simply a subject of
state, a child, a pupil or a sinner. It is in the
elevation above the other that selfawareness is lost
and enmity looms with revolutions against false
classdistinction and wars against estrangement.
Therefore the rule of treating in principle pupils,
children, believers and subjects of state as equal as
possible: it is a demand of selfhumiliation: I am
myself a profiteer,
fallen soul,
sinner and pupil. I am the one in need of
emancipation
and thus I will not only liberate myself, but the
whole world of my preaching, teaching, manipulating
and belittling.
q) Have days of festivity and
leisure.
As
discussed earlier just to work and pray is not enough.
Especially in a culture in which the media have become
very prominent a great deal of work is done for the
sake of keeping distance. More and more people living
closer and closer to each other necessitate the
informationculture that overcomes estrangement at the
one hand and keeps the people separated at the other
hand. Thus watching television has become almost a
profession
of peacekeeping by social security with the
multimediacomputer as an answer to the problem of
oneway-information. Of course keeping distance and
confirming distance may not go on endlessly. It might
be a job in an overpopulated world but to each job
there should be a counterweight. Work and leisure
should alternate, and thus keeping distance and even
confirming distance, must be alternated by the
contrary: one must cover the distance and be present
no longer trying to confirm the distance but contact
in the real. Practically this
takes the form of a new type of repose: a media arrest
on days to an alternate scheme to contrast the culture
and timeconsciousness. Thus we have sundays
and saturdays
that might be of a religious or familial repose but
still mean working at the media. Thus we have
workingdays ignoring the media, solely meant for free
association in social presence for the sake of social
control. And there are days that both types cover one
another because of the contrasting consciousness of
the different timeschedules (tables).
This is the complexity of postmodern
informationculture: it is so complex and diverse that
separate days are needed just for study and
contemplation - not working for the distance or the
profit or for going out - and days for celebrating a
new season and forget about everything else. From the
chaos of free exploration of all human potential a new
type of order arises settling everything to its own
nature: the politics of time,
the appliances of science, the religions of the old
and new age and the natural order of the ancestors.
Thus modern man can retrieve his lost soul
having extra days of festivity and leisure redefining
the concept of work and celebrating
holidays.
r) Go out with the family.
For
each marriage not only a conscious approach of
scheduling to time
is needed to cover the whole of culture, also keeping
together with it is important. What the celibate in
his freedom of selfrealisation might settle wouldn't
be different to the interest of the family. To go out
together, having children or not is terribly important
to keep the marriage or partnership vital. One
consciousness contrasting the other changing from
private to public, from repose to work and from
culture to nature, man and woman learn to know
themselves better which will improve the quality of
their marriage. Marriage is thus not only an economic
agreement, a childrearing modus, a religious agreement
or a natural lust of life. It can be a complete
diverse enough to be interesting for the rest of your
life. It can be a liberation
to an order that has a clearly set goal for the
future. It can be a motivator that keeps from
selfdestruction and falldown. It can be a way of being
outgoing to the world at large without losing the
continence of the family or the liberty of the
celibate.
s) Play and appreciate the media
together.
There
are two things that people tend to forget in the
philosophy of prayer and work: play and appreciate
together. Growing up people quickly learn that to live
means to go for a profit, be it making money or making
peace. But once having acquired the goods and the
peaceful settlement of their wanting, they still must
learn to appreciate and play. Going for your own thing
the ego
goes in refutation of everything else: openness is
lost, competition is bred. Also seriously believing in
one's own game, having made it a profession
and a strategy of domination the sense of playfulness
is also lost. One has become a piece of chagrin that
is no longer sensitive to the fun of life. The one who
always wanted to win turns out to have lost the most
precious: the innocence of the children's
soul
that plays and wonders about all. Thus it is very
important to settle one's schedules
for the sake of appreciating the offerings of the
fellow-man and to take time
to play a game free from the profitmotive.
For
appreciation we have all kinds of media: radio,
television, video, magazines, newspapers, books,
c.d.'s, tape's, computers, telephones and the like.
There is a difference in the media that support direct
communication, like television, radio and the
internetcomputer-telephone connectionand the media
that are less direct, a fixation, and quickly a
possession that leads to accumulation and bewilderment
by attachment
and fall-down. The greater the timelapse between
sending and receiving the more difficult it becomes to
experience the communication as being alive. Slow
media like books, newspapers, films etc. depend on a
collective interest at more or less the same moment so
that something may be in vogue but a week later may be
forgotten. The same thing one year being 'in' can
hardly be appreciated the other year considered to be
outdated. Books are best red by a studygroup or
religion as in essence each message is a social
reality.
Thus one can understand why it is sometimes difficult
or impossible to read a book, however good it may be.
Reading a novel one communicates with the writer
tuning in on the theme that one must live oneself
somehow. Thus one's literatures, records, films etc.
represent one's life and ego.
For
a good marriage to appreciate together is important as
culture can represent a lot of ego
that does not align to the soul
the same way the partner would or could like. Also to
have communication as direct as possible with a
minimum of distance between the people involved
enhances the quality and content of the message and
the ability to enjoy it together. This directly leads
to the appreciation of theater performances before
television, television live-performances before
previously fixed programs, cinema-performances before
video or televisionperformances, on-line discussion
before newspaperpolemics, etc. etc. It is important to
have one's priorities clear in the appreciation of the
media as ultimately the distance between people must
be covered. Essentially the message of each medium is
to get together and celebrate the order propagated.
Violent and tabloid presentations can be recognized as
warnings against keeping distance to much with the
wrong idea of discipline. And that we should not
celebrate. The message of the medium is to discard it
as the human body is the ultimate machine to live
with. Playing games one must learn to recognize the
same thing: to the soul
they must be representative of the eternal values to
have an alignment
that supports the marital bond or the continence of
the celibate. In the games of sport etc. one tends to
be fixed on winning with the implication that one
never has won before the game is over. The proper
philosophy though is that one has always won to begin
with and that each game gives the risk of losing.
Realizing that to lose the game itself is the greatest
danger, the risk of losing points weighs less than the
risk to be considered a bad sport who can't stand
losing. The golden rule of all games is to play for
the game and not so much for the result. Reinforcing
the winning of the game with money and other
privileges is exactly the way to corrupt it, define
war and create victims. For the sake of worldpeace
thus in fact all
professional play
should be forbidden. It runs into the same pit as
violence on television etc.: people forget that their
fascination might be about bad habits and creating
victims, while the goal of the game was exactly the
opposite: to recover the childrens soul
of innocence.
t) Beware of making
dependence.
Not
emancipated people in marriage and other partnership
heavily depend upon each other. It is a bad habit not
to share the know-how, to make secrets, to subdue and
to foster other strategies of power. It should not be
necessary to exert power over each other at all. The
powergame is a symptom of lost authority. Lacking the
authority of a trustworthy order, people begin to
fight about rulership, ownership, right to enjoy and
the right to use etc. After the age of twenty-one
people should not be the victim of powergames and
destructive powerstategies because they lost the
authority and have to fight for it themselves. It is
primitive culture that does not settle the order of
authority because of a lust for opposing in conflict:
it is strange to the spirit
of playfulness and sharing in appreciation. Having
society as a battlefield does not make happy people,
not even when they won: you can't buy happiness, nor
can you possess it. Happiness comes from being right
with Time,
that is to say, of successfully aligning
to the soul
which is the seat of the consciousness of eternal
happiness. In the soul
all goodness comes together as conscientious
selfremembrance containing the best of man as being
God
or the true self.
In
the soul
the good is remembered and the bad forgotten: that is
how we can forgive and forget. True independence is
the result of depending on the soul
and its values. Hence all dependence in relating
within or outside of marriage should be subdued by the
motive for the basic values that guarantee the proper
conscience (pict.).
Conspiring against it might give the illusion
of a bond but is in fact an addiction in service of
the senses: the dependency about which always the
conflict arises. This dependency one should not make.
Practically one should not tempt each other into free
sex,meateating, speculating and gambling for mere
possessing and betraying the truth with intoxicants.
For the frustration of sex we have the cultures of
sublimation, for the frustration of meateating we have
the delights of the vegetarian kitchen, for the
frustration of going for the dough we have the world
of games, and for the frustration of non-intoxication
we have the cultures of consciousness found in the
alternate reality.
The cure for the desires of the malingering dependency
that ruins all marriage and other partnership is in
one phrase: enjoy the sublime, eat with compassion,
play for the game and go for the alternate. Once
appreciating this dictum, knowing the do's forgetting
the don'ts, the frustration will be tolerated and the
rebellion overcome.
u) Keep former relations and be
charitable.
Marriage
and partnership can be a conspiracy of bad habits. Not
rarely the Lord will manifest Himself in the form of a
partner to teach the lessons of the eternal values.
Sex is offered as a lesson or punishment against
egoism, possessiveness, lying and corruption. Lusty
one forgets the value of the subliminal continence
that feeds with progress by the internal force of the
soul:
in love you lose your mind
building an ego,
acquiring possessions, compromising with the truth,
and corrupting in sex. Fond of the punishment of love
one loses intelligence
and does not really progress; one does not really
learn. Old allies of celibate continence are lost in
the process and the selfless attitude is forgotten in
the bewilderment of the outer effect. Willfully
keeping former relations and the attitude of charity
is the cure for the side-effects of the love-school.
It demands the domination of the mode of goodness
(pict.),
compassion sharing and caring, not strange to the
parental instinct hat should go with the sexual
preference. Clear is why not to corrupt the instinct
of parental care is so important. Selfish sex ruins
the alignment
with the soul
and thus the way out of the clutches of material
bewilderment.
v) Have some private space for
each.
As
stated earlier to withdraw and recapitulate is
important not to get lost in the affairs of the world.
Even as a small child for the ego
it is important to recover the authentic nature of
alignment
with the soul
in the seclusion of a personal sphere. Missing this
escape from the dominant social impositions in
education and later on in marriage one may develop
mental and social diseases. Forced into the social one
may develop destructive attitudes just to get rid of
the pressure. This can develop in a negative groupego
fostering enmity or even criminal aberration towards
others or even worse will breed anti-social behavior
of individuals eventually deranging psychiatrically.
Society and also marital association must be a free
choice (pict.).
All things can be appreciated as they are with all
their limitations when one is free to refute and
withdraw. The material manifest is always full of
deficiency and limited. Bound to that with no escape
one can get pretty desperate.
Practically
a man may withdraw in fishing, an attic or shed for
his hobby, while mommy may develop, likewise an
afternoon-meditation
or nap or may loose herself in needlework and other
withdrawn activity. As a private place is not always
available one still must try to have one's own thing,
activity, chair, play-corner, sewing-table, study-desk
etc. instead.
w) Share your secrets.
As
known not everything can be said and revealed. One has
to keep front. Although one should not worry too much
about one's image, things going really good or bad
must not obscure the importance of keeping up the
appearance. Thus many people are not as holy and pure
as they appear or speak. This is perfectly normal and
o.k. This is an eternal practice of human society that
demands its members to be loyal to the common standard
to which an alternative may not be destructive. It is
even one of the greatest forces of mankind: once a
certain form of social control is working the whole of
society can live in fear of losing that collective
honor. In warfare the fear of freedom and
emancipation
will manifest in enmity thus losing its precious
honor: mankind thus lost a lot of precious but wrongly
propagated ideals. Honor turning out to be false pride
is a drama and trauma for man.
The
traditional cure for the disease of falsification by
attachment
to the outer image is the religious confession.
Confession would prevent estrangement from the
interest of the soul
and forgive the aberration before real derangement in
society would take place. In modernity this has taken
many other forms: television is like a collective
confessionboot putting high demands on the side of the
one's who have to 'forgive and forget' appreciating.
Psychotherapy would forgive people their egoism in the
confession of their weakness while new-age approaches
would forgive people their irreligion lacking the
traditions. Alternative strategies of alignment
kept the honor of modern men preventing individual and
collective falldown in the enmity of false pride. All
these strategies are founded on sharing the secrets in
some or another form of confession. In marriage one
might not confess all secrets to the partner, but to
have them forgiven by others will not make the
marriage better. The cure consists not rarely of the
practice of breaking the false pretenses of holiness
within a marriage, thus preventing downfall of the
marriage itself: it is a bond of strength and weakness
proving that honesty will last and that there will
always be a difference between God
and men, between men and their ideals. Another way of
saying it is that to share in the humble of being
human is the best way of realizing the common
reality
and need of an ideal to go for. Man dies when his
ideals die.
x) Take care of surprises and
alternatives.
Keeping
track with a certain rut can be important but bears
the danger of losing consciousness. A rut has a sexual
connotation: it can be a form of attachment
or bewilderment by material nature. Because of
time,
the movement of matter,
we have consciousness: without change one does not
perceive. Even dead immobile objects are perceived
because the perceiver changes position or moves his
eyes. Staring at an object is an old meditation
technique to arise 'above time',
meaning to get concentrated and appease the
mind.
In the repetition of the same old way we have two
realities: the natural reality
of cyclic time
repeating a certain pattern making up the
consciousness of normal living beings and the
unconcious habit of a conditioning that takes away the
consciousness of a living being. The difference
between the naturally conscious and the conditioned
unconscious lies in the authority to which the living
being is subjected. Living beings are structured, form
a pattern themselves under the influence of the
outside and the inside. The inside pattern is
genetically programmed, the outside pattern is a mix
of cultural and natural influences. To the authority
of the genes not much can be done: if the program does
not satisfy there will be stress to mutate for the
next generation. To the outside we have in principle a
free choice of natural and cultural conditions to suit
our taste of life. Culture and nature can harmonize or
be in conflict. According to culture we have the
authority of other persons: holy men and woman,
politicians and scientists who operate by means of
their fixations in the form of lawbooks, bibles and
contraptions of applied science varying from a simple
clock to a complicated computer. To nature we have the
authority of natural order, religiously called
God,
politically called green or ecological and
scientifically called time.
Time
orders nature by showing patterns of cyclical
time
religiously perceived as God
because of its natural confirmation of each genetic
code. Politicians have difficulty with
time
as the movements of nature form a counterpoint of
different rhythms to which they simply develop a
pragmatical concept of time
of their own. In fact mankind deals by means of
clockwork with a concept of time
that does not exist in nature: it has lost its natural
dynamics and suffers induction to a manageable
mean-zone-summerconcept of 'standardization'.
Conditioned
to the authority of nature one does not lose
consciousness because time
by nature is dynamic: no measure of time
stays the same (apart from the pulse of a quasar).
Because of that change we have to stay, under that
subtle command, alert as an hour is not an hour a day
not a day and a year not a year. That change
guarantees the continence of consciousness. To
cultural change we have the opposite effect: because
of fixing time
to a mean, a zone or a season, we lose its dynamic,
its adaptation to the place, and its gradual change by
nature. With a mean we become rigid and with a zone we
lose touch with the space described by time
(identity).
With summertime you develop a shock of change instead
of supple, gradual smooth change. Because of these
latter defects of cultural time
man suffers being put off, getting exhausted
compensating and feeling bad in a state of confusion
of identity
to the here and now. We speak of cultural
neurosis
or a collective schizoid
condition that might break out in the psychosis of
warfare or general criminal disobedience. The latter
condition of normal cultural neurosis
means estrangement to the command of the
soul
which inspires to conscience in regard to nature by
the instinct of (collective) survival.
Concerning
the collective reality
of political standardtime not much can be done by an
individual: we can only compensate by developing
person by person a counterculture of cherishing
alternatives and surprises. From this counterculture
of surprising each other by means of unexpected
alternatives a new concept of time
(tables)
can evolve as a cure for the pathogenic of standard
time.
In order not to become chaotic in the love for
alternatives, defying expectation, the theme of
time
should be remembered: it is not to get addicted to
drugs, free sex, financial speculation or killing
living beings. Lies, deceit, selfhood and
possessiveness are symptoms of attachment.
Restoring the basic values of truth, loyalty,
compassion and sobriety (pict.),
the alternative can be trusted to lead the way to a
better society with better marriages and a better
concept of time
with a healthy tolerance for as well the old as the
new.
y) Keep the house tidy.
Literally
it seems to be a simple rule for a good marriage. In
the context of greater culture it is not as simple
though: who is responsible for the chaos of society:
who must clean up the seas, the air, the soil and our
precious timeawareness? It all went out of control
working for the money instead of the ecological green
quality, exchanging spiritual happiness for material
gratification. Mankind must struggle for survival
increasing in population discovering that without the
basic virtues of sharing and caring, honesty and
loyalty (pict.),
we cannot survive. We have by love of truth to accept
that killing, intoxicating, lusting and acquiring are
not the way to survive collectively. To 'have the
house tidy' any married person may try to remember
this: the future of mankind as a whole and the
individual marriage in particular is in the
vegetarian, staying free from intoxicants, regulating
the lusts while sharing the cultures. By no way any
progress can be expected from promoting the meatdish,
swallowing pills, sexual freedom and segregating
cultures. These attachments
lead to a 'messy house' in which mankind in the long
run can not survive. It is not to make a new moral
norm and to forbid: there will be always some love for
chaos (pict.)
messing up to the basic values: testing the limits is
allowed as far as the law permits. It is all about
seeing to the proper horizon of the ideal, the good of
willing and the future of the children. Eating meat
one loses the joy of compassion (the willingness to
help), intoxicating one's sense of truth (the
honesty), promiscuous one become's deceitful (dirty or
disloyal), and possessive one loses tolerance (the
ability to share). Remembering this it will be no
problem to keep the house tidy and the marriage
satisfying.
z) Bear poverty, adversity, disease
and loss.
From
poverty one discovers the cultures of happiness, from
adversity one learns to detach and accept a challenge,
from disease one learns to repent and from loss one
becomes free. The hindrance (pict.)
in the way of all this learning that sooner or later
has to be accepted as everybody finds out what it is
to be without funds, luck, health and support, is
called attachment.
One can be attached to riches missing the discipline
to survive poor, one can be attached to everything
going easy not able to endure any stress or
responsibility, one can be attached to one's health
getting desperate aging and one can be attached to
people and provisions completely debilitated in one's
dependency. Nor as an individual, nor as a married
couple one can persevere without being confronted with
this test of time.
Without the firm decision to stay loyal in times of
disease, poverty, adversity or loss no relation with
each other or oneself can maintain. The loyalty
pertains to the basic values (pict.)that
guarantee the reality
of the soul.
Staying rich, healthy, lucky and supported or not,
these values guarantee the continuity of personal and
marital integrity.
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